is it a natural part of grief to feel a sense of anger at the dead person for dying?

Answer 1

Yes, it absolutely is part of the grieving process for some people. There is really no right or wrong way to grieve...it's a very personal thing that will affect 100 people 100 different ways.

Answer 2

Yes, it is very common to feel a sense of anger towards a person who died. It is part of the grief process. Grief comes in waves. Some of the feelings will be
Disbelief
denial
anger
depression
Rationalization
acceptance

And it is common to go in and out of these emotions.

Answer 3

Yes it is natural for some people to be angry at the person that died for dying. I know this from first hand experience when my maternal grandmother died in 2000 at the age of 91.

No matter how prepared (depending on the situation that is coming in to play) one is for the person to die it still doesn't change the fact that it hurts us.

We all go thru the stages of grief at a different pace from other people.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

What you are experiencing is what Sigmund Freud termed as our human defense mechanism, which is an unconscious strategy to help us deny or distort reality. There are three defense mechanisms: repression, projection, and displacement. You are directing your anger on the person who passed away, when in reality, that deceased person is not the real object of your anger. Is it possible that you do not enjoy the grief you are feeling, and therefore, you are angry at yourself for feeling such an undesired emotion?

Answer 5

The grief process can include anger. In almost all the deaths I have dealt with I have been angry. It will pass. I found this below on http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/Grief/grief.html

Normal Grief Reactions
When experiencing grief, it is common to feel . . .

like you are "going crazy"


unable to focus or concentrate


irritable or angry (at the deceased, oneself, others, higher powers)


frustrated or misunderstood


anxious, nervous, or fearful


like you want to "escape"


guilt or remorse


ambivalence

numbness

Answer 6

This is a common feeling most people feel at one time or another. It becomes a problem, if this is all you allow yourself to feel. Grief is a long process. If you get stuck or trapped in one feeling or mood for too long,seek help.

Answer 7

Yes, one can get angry for even being left alone. How dare my husband die & leave me alone with all these responsiblities ? My sister's husband passed away a few months ago after a long battle with lung cancer. She doesn't have time to mourn because of all the debt she's finding he left behind. They loved each other intensely but she can't help but feel decieved. She cries & then gets mad. It is her right to feel both. Evidently, you've lost a loved one also. Care to Share?

Answer 8

Perfectly normal !!

There can be many emotions in the griveing curve that don't seem to "make sense" perhaps - but are still able to be felt VERY strongly indeed.

Feeling angry with someone for them dying is a very common one - as is guilt shortly afterwards for feeling angry with them...!

It affects people in very different ways.

Mark

Answer 9

Yes. Its more like disappointment and grief in disguise.

Answer 10

Of course thats a natrual reaction we feel a whole range of emotions, from feling betrayed, guilt, and anger is definitely one of those emotions....nothing ever really prepares us for this thing that we know is inevitable.... allow yourself to grieve as you need to.