I'm, 27 and he is 29.Ok about 6 months ago , I went out with this guy who lives not far from me.We used to see each other every morning but non of us had the guts to talk to each other untill 2 years later his friend ask for my no to give to him. We dated for a little while and things were ok, untill I kinda got this gut feeling that someting wasn't right and I asked him if he still likes his ex, he said they are still friend but he is over her, I kept pressing at it as I didn't feel as though he was over her, he was telling me" your paranoid" and I'm like no I'm not sothing doesn't feel right, Untill one day he calles me and says that he still misses his ex, but she doesn't want to him back, they broke up becasue she wanted to focuse of her uni, so they didn't break up because someone cheated, anyway. I broke it off with him cos I could't handle him still having feelings for her and he agreed that he wanted to sort himself out. He sent me a text asking me for coffee what do I do??
2007-04-09 19:16:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never loved the guy or anything, we only went out for a short time, so I thought coffee would be o.k . I still talk to my ex and he new that except I don't see him or have feelings for him, like he did, should I ask him if he still has feelings for his ex if I choose to go out for that coffee or leave it, cos he may just want to be friends what do you think
2007-04-09 19:33:09 · update #1
For those who don't know what UNI is it's collage. Like Harvard or UCLA, that kinda thing.
2007-04-10 13:56:04 · update #2
i would so go and have coffee that cant hurt any thing .ya know love is so hard to find out there in this world mabe he is tring to come back slowly and probly does still have feelings for her but appeartly she is over and done with him go have coffee and let him know you know he still thinks of her and that it might be alright for now but you really would like him to focus more on the here and now with you than the past with her
2007-04-09 19:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chris H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is something that you have be to comfortable with. If there is any doubt I think communication with your love one is very important. If you can't trust this person, you cannot carry on because he did not provide you with a sense of security. Your heart will tell you whether you feel right or not. Since the relationship is over, there is no harm maintaining a friendship by having coffee once a while. Right ? You can't be couple doesn't mean you can't be frens =)
2007-04-09 19:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy, have coffee with him. Give him a chance, guys dont like talking about things, and if he is willing, let him talk. Just because you have coffee doesnt mean you are agreeing to anything or making any comitments. Then how you respond to what he has to say is up to you.
2007-04-09 19:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mae L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him for coffee and talk. This is what needs to be done at this time. Then it would be a good idea to get acquainted with him as a friend. Don't rush him. You don't want to be with a guy who isn't ready for another relationship.
2007-04-09 19:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to coffee. There is no reason why you can't be friends. Just keep your distance until you know if he is truly over this girl. You don't want to be the rebound relationship!! Just enjoy the conversation. You have good instincts, use them. Good Luck!!
2007-04-09 19:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i went through the same thing with my ex! except the whole coffee thing. but he wasnt over his ex even though he kept insisting he was. WHAT A ***?! but i got over it. i wouldnt want to be in relationship with a guy when theres another girl in his head. i say reject his invitation for coffee. there's better guys out there.
2007-04-09 19:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by perfectly_unperfect 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you want a relationship or someone to argue with? do you even know what a relationship is? it doesn't sound like it what you should have been doing the first time is making sure he forgot about his ex not keep reminding him you probably have no idea what things about a relationship you can enjoy so you just complain. If he was smart he wouldn't have anything to do with you.
2007-04-09 19:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, free coffee!
Kidding, but you are still considered his 'ex' and a friend. Help him out.
Don't just ignore him totally. You already know about his personality, and just don't fall into the same 'trap' like before. If he still wants you back.
But, just treat him like a guy friend!
2007-04-09 19:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the coffee. Give him a chance. Love is messy and complicated. At least he was honest with you. That's pretty cool. Good luck baby!
2007-04-09 19:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if he has feelings for his ex, and he sent u a text message asking u for coffee, u could go. i mean its no date or anything. if it is a date, just say i am busy. some other time.
2007-04-09 19:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋