After the first time that my boyfriend's parents took me to dinner, I wrote a thank you note. It was just a short handwritten note, nothing real elaborate. Do you think this was too much? As soon as I sent it, I started second guessing myself, thinking they might think that I am sucking up some how, but I think it was appropriate after the first dinner. Thoughts??
2007-04-09 17:47:57 · 9 answers · asked by PapayaWine 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think it was a lovely gesture.
2007-04-09 17:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by KD 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That was the exact right thing to do. I bet they were really touched. Sending a thank-you note after someone has you over for dinner isn't sucking up, it's good manners. If you're going to have dinner with them regularly, I wouldn't write a thank-you every time, but I would bring a little gift like flowers or something. It's nice to give a little "hostess gift" when you are a guest.
2007-04-09 18:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write what you really feel. It doesn't matter if it is all over the place the only thing that will matter to them is that you are appreciative and classy. Write the Thanksgiving and birthday gift thank you in the same note. All you really have to express is how much you appreciate their generosity both as a host and hostess for Thanksgiving and the lovely card and gift certificate they gave for your birthday. They sound like really nice people.
2016-05-21 04:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't second guess yourself at all! It was a really thoughtful gesture that anyone should appreciate, especially a boyfriend's parents. It was completely appropriate and a great thing to do. There's nothing wrong with showing that you are thoughtful and believe in manners.
2007-04-09 17:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by finein714 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow! I wouldn't say it is too much, just not often done in this day and age. They will really appreciate the note and have a very good opinion of you!
2007-04-09 19:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very appropriate and delightful.
It is appropriate for anytime that someone invites you out special. Your bf is a lucky guy to have such a sensitive and spontaneously appreciative person
2007-04-09 17:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
ok, a thank you note was a bit much, it would have been a lot better if you would have simply called them...by sending a note it seems like your scared of them , plus that's so formal and cold.......they arent your business colleagues or a boss your trying to suck up to...they you boyfriends parents, you wanna get to a level where your comfortable with them, and that letter just made it kinda weird.
2007-04-09 17:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Wow! Manners aren't dead after all!
What you did was exactly right. So relax.
2007-04-09 17:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, that was great! Now they have no reason to hate you. Way to go!
2007-04-09 17:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋