I Do Not Want To Say No But I Have A Whole Life Ahead Of Me... And I Have No Time To Be Tied Down... But I Am Love And I Wanna Make Him Happy But At The Same Time I Wanna Say What Means The Most Inside my Heart!! What Do I Do?? I Don't Want To Disapoint Him Any At All.. He Might Be A Lil Upset At Me... And He Is Already Talking About Kids.. He Is Going To Fast... He Needs To Put A Hold On Everything And Think... I Mean I Love To Do Things With him... Go To The Park.. Go Out To Eat.. Vacation!! I Don't Know!!
And He Was Talking About Going To The Beach!! And He Was Going To Ask Me While We Was Walking On The Beach.. But He Said That He Could Not Wait Any Longer.. And I Was Thinking In My Mind.. I Could Wait A Few More Months Or YEARS!!
2007-04-09 17:21:05 · 8 answers · asked by Animal Cracker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a whole life ahead of you but you don't want to spend it with him after being with him for a year. I have to wonder what you do want to do and what in the world you were thinking during that year. I dunno how to read you. You may just be scared of the idea or you may have fallen prey to the lie that you can have it all. Then again, maybe he just changed the rules on you. Either way, you seem confused.
You're stuck most likely. Whatever you do, you'll beat yourself up for not having done the other. Somebody's gonna thumb me down for this, but it's the truth. Sometimes having too many choices is a bad thing.
I'll say this:
If that is what you were truly thinking, then you are poison for any man who may be marriage minded. For his sake more than for yours, you should cut off the relationship right away. The two of you are obviously not looking for the same things out of life and you will not make each other happy.
Sorry to be so blunt, but I've been through this one on both sides. This is a story that never has a happy ending.
2007-04-09 17:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by neoimperialistxxi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him enough to spend the rest of you life with this man then go for it. If you just love spending time with him then don't do it. Marriage is more than just spending time, but giving your life fully to that person. If you dont' want to be tied down why do you even have a boyfriend. Search your heart and make sure you make the right decision. The decision is yours and yours alone. Coming on here won't help you make that decision.
2007-04-09 17:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know how to answer I know it sounds cheesy but you already have answered. If the answer is not automatically YES then trust yourself and your hesitations. Be honest, discuss your reasons for the desire to wait. Saying yes to avoid hurting someone's feelings is only going to hurt their feelings a whole lot more when you , because you feel trapped" end it later. If you wait to your ready either you will become ready and it will be successful or you never will and it is a great deal less complicated without legal interventions needed.
2007-04-09 17:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by cathy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him if he loves you enough to marry you, that he can wait until you are ready. Your love for each other will exist with or without marriage! Tell him it's not that you don't want to marry him, but that you are not ready to settle down, and want a few more years of you and him being crazy and free!
2007-04-09 17:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by sarah4peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to marry him then just dont get married until like 1 or 2 years later but if you say no or turn him down he will probably break up with you or something cause there would be a weirdness after that
2007-04-09 17:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by thatguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready to get MARRIEd explain to him that it has only been a year and you would like to wait a bit longer.
He's obviously more serious then you are, so you have to say no.
2007-04-09 17:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all of that ranting with the exclamation marks boils down to NO. It is clear that yes is not going to pop out of your heart anytime soon so you may as well end the suspense with a no.
2007-04-09 17:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him that...do what your heart says. You won't be happy at all if you don't. It will be a mistake! If you want to wait, then wait. If he loves you, then he will respect your decision. If he ends up leaving, then it was never meant to be at all. Never make a decision, unless your hearts in it.
2007-04-09 17:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋