Iv been with him for 3 months.I LOVE him but he doesnt trust me at all.He always thinks that im cheating on him.its driving me crazy. i want to break up with him but i dont want to hurt him.
2007-04-09 16:29:58 · 19 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The rule that most people learn too late or not at all is: break up with people swiftly! It's true he will feel bad but if you are decisive yet supportive there will be no messiness.
Btw, anyone who thinks you are cheating all the time and doesn't trust you is bound to become abusive. Be careful.
2007-04-09 16:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,breakups are always hard,and they are always going to hurt.That is unavoidable.You need to sit him down,and if you really "LOVE" him then you need to communicate! I cannot stress enough that communication needs to take place in order to maintain a healthy relationship.If you are not willing to work this out then you need to sit him down,and tell him what you told us."He always thinks that im cheating on him.Its driving me crazy.I dont want to hurt you,but i cannot be in a relationship like this.It hurts when you accuse me of such things".Maybe he just needs a little reassurance.If you are willing to work it out,sit him down and tell him it hurts you,but you would like to work through it.Ask him why he feels you would cheat on him,and also explain that this behavior should not continue.If it doesnt work,then tell him you cannot continue the relationship for the fact he doesnt trust that you will not cheat on him.Good luck hun,and have a good night!
2007-04-09 23:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I see how that could be an issue. I was actually just in a similar situation. I had been with my boyfriend for almost six months. Things were fine until he started asking me questions about everything. He wanted to know what I was doing at all times. I was going insane. I needed to end it. So this is what I did....I confronted him, I told him things weren't working out. needless to say, he was upset. But I told him that I needed a change and that I couldn't do this anymore. I let him down easy. He took it well, eventually. It has been about 1 month since the break up, we are friends now. It has been amost like old times. I hope my experience helps you!
2007-04-09 23:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) if you really "LOVE" him, you would not be wanting to breakup with him. "Love" is when TWO people have connected emotionally in their heart, mind, and. If your boyfriend thinks youyr constantly cheaintg and you don't like it, then no, you don't "LOVE" him. 3 Months is NOT long enough to fall in love with somebody. He doesn't appear to like you the way you like him. Your right to end it. He doesn't trust you, and that's not healthy for any relationship.
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2) All you have to do it walk up to him and say "dumped" then walk away, but that's not very nice, so you should him his charges "you never trusted me". That always works.
3) He's gonna think you've been cheating when you tell him that he's dumped. but it's just steam, he's not serious when he insults you. he's a boy, and boys get mad. Don't have any hard feelings with him and you'll both be fine =)
I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this. Good Luck with it all!! Being single's fun =)
2007-04-09 23:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no gentle way on trying to end a relationship with someone. Especially if it's because of the other person. By the description it sounds unhealthy and maybe need to explain why youre unhappy. By doing so your boyfriend will know how you feel and if he decides to see the light there might be improvement. It's all in communication. If he's not willing to talk to you as a grown up, then he will never grow from this.
I've had a lot of friends end their realtionships because of the other persons insecurities.
2007-04-09 23:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by fishnets_lipstix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth.
that way its not u hurting him, its him hurting himself.
make him lsiten to u, n realise what he's doing.
tell him u love him but he makes u unhappy, and u dont liek being miserale in that way n if things r not gona change on his side (more trust) then u rather stay friends..
then give him a week or so to think about it/change hisbehavior n see if he changed for good or not..
if not then he'll just know it's over..
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2007-04-09 23:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sakura 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way out with out pain. But it's better to be up front and honest. It would hurt worse if later on he found out you were with him only out of pity. You can always use the biggest cop-out of all. Just say "I like you, I like you a lot, but I'm not in love with you. I think we should go our separate ways. We can always remain friends". Can't get much nicer and softer than that.
2007-04-09 23:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him you he love you if he does say i love you too,but if he says a little or i hate you say i hate you too and i am going to break up with you because you think i m cheating on you.Or just tell you friend that you hate your boy friend and you want to break up with him so can you tell him that i am dead so he will worry and you can move some where far and meet anther SEXY man.Or you can say that i am not cheating on you and can you please stop thinking that i am cheating on you because i am not cheating on you ok and try to have SEX so he will think that you are not cheating on him.Or think of something else
2007-04-09 23:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by bobakrahgozar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he always thinks you are cheating yet you know deep down you are not, and he doesn't trust you, then tell sit down with him and talk to him and let him know how you feel. If he doesn't listen to reason, then tell him that it is just best that you and him go your own separate ways. Simple as that.
2007-04-11 11:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Adam L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boy friend that never trusted me but I trusted him only because I was around him all the time he wouldn't trust me because guys would always hit on me or check me out alot when we went out together but he had a dissorder because every gurl hes ever been with pretty much, always cheated on him.........
2007-04-09 23:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Treasure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋