Hi, Im a 21 year old guy. I always get jealous when im goin out with a girl i really like. I get real possessive and have lost relationships because of it. I know its natural to be like this a litte when you really like someone but its stupid because I feel like i cant control it. Its all i think about. When I see her talking to another guy that she might be attracted to i just wanna pound the guy's face in. I can honestly say i dont want to be like this. Also it usually has nothing to do with what kind of a girl she is. She could be a completely trustworthy woman and i would still be like that. Its like its just a feeling i have no control over. I tell myself constantly to stop worrying about it and that everything is fine but its like a feeling that wont release. Any advice? (please dont tell me to just relax or something, ive tried it)
2007-04-09 16:17:10 · 12 answers · asked by Dan7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well here's the deal bro, I don't know if you've been hurt before or your parents have had issues, but that may be a start, secondly your a guy and we are all jealous we just don't show it the same way. Just remember this, if chick is gonna cheat on you, she's gonna cheat on you. All you can do is try to trust her and restrain yourself, then talk to your girl about it. If you open up and do the feelings thing, A) women love that B) you don't have to explain why youre jealous cuz she knows. At the same time too, you have to remember that she is gonna have guy friends and you will probably have girlfriends and you don't own her and vice a versa. So just try to calm down and be cool with the guys she talks with, find out what their up to and then tell her if you think some dude is trying to get in her pants. And if he does try... Smash his face in. Keep your head up partner...
2007-04-09 16:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by dpcarras2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have a question, Why are you so jealous, has your trust been betrayed in the past? If it has, sweety realize that all women are not alike and make better choices. If you constanly think that your girl is cheating on you, u will never have a successful relationship, also you are just 21 years-old arent you still having fun?.....Maybe you need some time by yourself, maybe you should lay off the girlfriend thing for a while, Step back and take a look at what has happened to you in the past to make you feel or act that way. Good Luck
2007-04-09 16:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by KATRINA A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, realize you can NOT change what other people do and think. You can also not tell others what to do or what to think. You can never own anybody even if you are married to the person. You should be true to yourself and to the other person - and that is the best you can do.
A lot of the times, feeling such as this, really is a reflection of your own thoughts.
What I suggest you do is to see a psychologist. This is not the same thing as seeing a psychiatrist (ie. shrink). Psychologists are trained counselors who will help you think for yourself without any use of medications. You may be surprised how much you didn't know about yourself.
2007-04-09 16:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy usually comes from you being insecure with yourself. If the woman you are with is so great, you should want to share her with the world and let everyone see how lucky you are. You should try to become more independent as well. If you are shopping with her, wander off on your own instead of staying right by her side the entire time. It shows her that your independent and it will help yourself as well. If you are at a party, talk to a bunch of other people at the party and not just the men, talk to some women, too.
It is impossible to get her to never talk to other guys, whether it be in public, at work, etc. At the end of the day, she comes home to you and she's your woman.
2007-04-09 16:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by LemonButt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mentioned control a lot. if you identify why you have such a need to control, you might be able to resolve this issue.
something like this is something to do with your sense of showing affection.maybe due to sense of sibling rivalry for love which you feel in some way you lost?
maybe a betrayal in the past by a loved one?
trust issues?
there can be a lot of reasons for being powerfully jealous.
its a tricky question to answer without knowing you. i hope you resolve this issue.
2007-04-09 16:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by crojon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do need to relax... the biggesting thing is if you trust her she will be faithful to you. If she is faithful then you don't need to worry. You might wanna talk to a shrink about this issue, it could go back to something deeper than what we tell you over the internet.
2007-04-09 16:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Tron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are really insecure with yourself. Is it that you think you aren't worthy of being with the girl and they might leave you? So you feel like you have to be very possessive of the girl you are with, and "protect" her from guys you feel like she might be attracted to more than you. The only way to overcome this is to become more confident in yourself; and the reasons the girl chose to be with you.
2007-04-09 16:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more confidence in yourself and your choice of partners...you need to understand if your being yourself and your partner doesn't like that, then they need to move on..but if they are attracted to your character then have the confidence to accept that too...confidence to accept the things you can not change and the wisdom to know that means if it was not meant to be then be thankful for it revealing itself and don't be depressed be excited to know your that much wiser and closer to a better relationship.
2007-04-09 16:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to someone that is close to you or maybe a counselor and let it out. and get to the bottom of why you get so jealous.and maybe it will help you. if you do go to counseling does not make you crazy your doing something to better yourself. good luck.
2007-04-09 16:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 01:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋