i hear all the times people say "looks don't matter". i really belive they do. If 2 guy's approach a girl in the exact same way and one is just average and the other is considered "attractive" then the results will be different, even if they are equally nice, confident, polite, etc... i know coming from a guy. this is not to be shallow but if you're going to spend a lot of time with someone then they have to be appealing. I think the term "shallow" is way too overused when refering to guys. It is not shallow to want to date someone who is good-looking, and most people have something about them that is attractive. Looks is what captures the eye at first and subcontiously, i feel, all people feel that way no matter what they say. The first time you meet someone, you make a judgement in your head about their appearance without even noticing sometimes. After that first judgement though, it is ALL personality which captures the heart
This is just an opinion, guys/girls, your thoughts?
2007-04-09 16:00:07 · 27 answers · asked by Mikey P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there needs to be an initial attraction. otherwise we wouldn't take an interest. But, (there is always a but.) Like with my husband, I was already friends with him and wasn't physicaly attracted to him at all, when I got to know him better i became more and more atracted to him as I began careing about him. So looks aren't always important. I say we should be sightless in the begaining so we could get to know one-another from the inside out :)
2007-04-09 16:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by jkn143 3 · 39⤊ 10⤋
Depends on the lady my friend. To some women looks matter a lot, to others not so much. And I would have to say the same holds true for guys. But the fact remains we all have that animal instinct at our core. And everybody wants to be with somebody beautiful or that they are physically attracted to. That's just the way it goes I'm afraid. Good luck.
P.S. A healthy diet, exercising, and keeping yourself in shape will help. Also holding down a good job and having a career will help as well. Work on yourself first and the rest will fall into place.
2015-09-21 20:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Vince 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 10:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define looks? not every man or women are attracted to the same type of looks and not associating this towards big boobs small bum big bum small boobs or eyes or blah blah. Shallow blind and narrowly observant people whom can more than likely not think for themselves dwell on he's hot she's hot. Attraction helps but a real human being can dig deeper and fall in love with the person. If you love someone why do you care for their features per say should just be there caring for them? Society is why we care more for material matter or what our eyes see because majority play a fantastic act with reverse psychology but fail to fool certain types of people like me.
Looks don't matter unless you're searching for perfection which in that case you are living on the wrong planet :D
Anyone who judges one by their looks has cracks in their own morning mirror.
2016-03-09 05:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Isaac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does matter. I mean personality is key...he has to be funny in my books. but looks is also important. When i say its important i mean that not by his physical appearance but his appeal. How he dresses, how he acts his confidence. When i'm attracted to someone its not always because of his face or body. sometimes i crush on guys that are big and not as attractive but they're hella funny and they have good gear.
Example: look at some of the singers out there. They may not be good looking if they weren't so famous and had a personal stylist at there beckonin call...i would date Rubin Studer (i think thats his name). he has a great smile and i know he treats his girls right
2007-04-09 16:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by Shauna 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ok I know no other way to be but real so heres the real . Looks matter but not as much as money. Have youy ever seen the Flavor of Love or taken a close look at Jay-Z and Beyonce' . A women would take a monkey if he could buy her a Porshe. Now how does that calculate into the real world you ask. A women would love man to be able to take of her. So if youre average looking get and above average car and keep your house clean and that chick is all over you.
2007-04-09 16:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
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2015-08-16 15:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me they don't matter.
I actually had two guys who liked me. They were best friends. Both of them were nice and treated woman with respect. I choose my ex because I still had feelings for him, not because he was cute.
I tend to get guy friends who like me after being my friend a while. I rarely have men like me right away. I'm not the prettiest but had a lot of men like me. They ended up being attracted to my personality. My suggestion is to be a friend and they may fall for you. Relationships last longer when that happens usually
2016-12-30 16:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am an Adult guy, and all i can say, for men under 40...yes... It really deam matters. I think i will be hated here, but this is just truth that i want to say. Look matters for us, we get in love with your face and **** and butt, and stay loving with your personalty. Nobody is not going to say 'He, check out that hot chick. She got SO big dream for future and really nice way of making taco', no, men usually say 'check out that boobs, ***, face, legs etc.' I am sorry but i just want to tell the truth. I think it is wrong, but it is how it is
2015-02-17 17:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks are the first thing, but if i see a really cute guy that knows just how cute he is, then i know i want to steer clear. the hottest guy is someone that is cute but is humble about it, looks are just an accident of birth, not an excuse for thinking you're wonderful. a guy's attitude towards his looks is even more important than looks, true it isn't the first thing a girl notices but it is what determines how interested she'll be.
2007-04-09 16:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
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to a certain extent sure maybe uh...i would consider it personally i like a guy that is mature and smart and most importantly is not in ANY way more feminine than i am. just like guys are attracted to feminine girls, us girls are attracted to masculine guys. so if you dont have anything going on in the looks section, make up for it with personality and masculinity (if thats a word). i would totally date a short and unattractive but masculine guy any day.
2016-03-27 00:45:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋