How can you tell if a friend (she) likes you more than a friend?

Question

this isn't some high school situation or anything.. cause i'm looking everywhere and nothing seems to pertain to my situation. about a month ago a friend, who i've had a crush on for some time, had broken up with her bf. Immedietly when I found out I sent her flowers and things seemed really great and finally a couple weeks ago she came down to visit and we had an amazing weekend together and ended up kissing. But since then it seems like she's distanced herself from me and I don't know why. Like we'll still talk, but it doesn't seem the same as b4 that weekend happened. So finally I just came out and told her exactly how I felt and that didn't help much.. was that whole weekend a mirage? should I let this whole thing go? please help me.. it's killing me inside.

Answer 1

She was probably on the rebound when you contacted her immediately after their breakup. She was probably lonely and she probably does like you.

You should start off as friends and try not to rush into things, especially immediately after a breakup.

Always start off as friends and slowly get to know each other. You should talk to her and apologize if she felt you were rushing her and making her nervous. It is good that you are an honest person. You probably made her scared since she doesn't know how she feels. Tell her you like her and you went too far and ask her to forgive you and see if you can start over as friends.

It may not ever be the same as you wanted it to be, but you will have it out in the open and hopefully she will be able to open up to how she honestly felt. Best wishes to you.

Answer 2

Maybe because you opened up to her she may be afraid of loosing her best friend. You need to also let her know that if she doesn't feel the same that it is ok. That things will stay the way they were if that is the way she wants it. But, also let her know you will always be there if she wants more than friendship. If she want to be a couple you will wait until she is ready and you won't push her to be more. Maybe she is still getting over her last bf. You don't want to be her rebound man. You want the whole relationship not just be there for picking up the pieces that was left from her break up. Be open with her but, don't push. Sometimes pushing will make her run away from even being friends. Good Luck. Let us know how things turn out.

Answer 3

hey there!

she's just gone through a break-up and maybe she finds it too early to jump into another relationship which requires much commitment. give her some space of her own now.

there are 2 ways u could tackle this situation:

1) u could actually become her closest friend and spend much time with her. always be there for her. & let her know this; let her know that u like her so much that u'd rather be friends than nothing at all. & u are still hoping that one fine day she would like u back. also tell her that even if she goes with someone else, u would be happy for her as long as she is happy.

but before u do this, ask yourself, do you like this gal that much and is she worth it because u risk getting hurt here. she might just go with another guy and tell u all about it since u have already become her best friend by then.

also, u could look at the brighter side of things. ever heard of the phrase 'a guy and girl can never be best friends'? thats because love develops gradually. and most of the time, they develop earlier in the female gender.

2) just let her be. u can live your life and she can live hers. u can contact her now and then. see how things go. afterall, if u are meant to be, u will be. so, just leave it to fate.

this option might be wiser if you are unsure whether its all gonna be worth it if you pick option 1. here, u can date as much as you want and stuff. who knows u might just find someone more compatible along the way!

good luck!

Answer 4

Sounds like you were the rebound guy, the soft place she needed while getting over a relationship. You told her how you feel, give her time to react. Don't push. If she totally ignores it, she's telling you(without words) that she doesn't want a relationship with you. Don't take it too hard, sometimes friendship to romance is a hard transition. Remain her friend but move on to other interests in the romantic area. If she responds in a positive manner..well..there it is.

Good luck :)

Answer 5

let it go. you're being the girl in this situation. seems to me that you're not too experienced. sending flowers to a girl freind after she just broke up is something her best GIRL friend would do. She might be thinking that kissing you was a mistake. Next time she calls, try to sneak in that you're going on a date. See how she reacts.

Answer 6

You know,
She may like you too, but feels guilty for just having broke up with her boyfriend. Or she may think she might be using you as a rebound boyfriend. Rebound is insanely common. You get accustomed to the companionship and physical affection of your mate, and when it's gone you can really miss it. For example: My friend is dating a loser. She doesn't love him, but she wants to get married. He went to jail. Only now does she miss him. But I don't think it's HIM she misses but his companionship and affections.
This is why most women get a 'rebound' and women cheat on their boyfriends while their in jail ^.~
Anyways. She may have real feelings for you and still feel guilty, or may doubt herself, or may be doing the rebound thing only. I have been very close with people then they come out and tell me they love me... and Im like... wtf... we were such good friends....
You know? I don't know how to explain it.
Oh well, I hope you are very lucky and end up with the woman you love, no matter who that is.

Answer 7

maybe ur moving too fast for her. speak to her find out exactly what she wants from you and what that kiss meant to her. she's now getting over a relationsip- dont expect too much too soon. decide whether she's worth the wait or not and be patient...

Answer 8

I've had baisicly the same thing happen to me... I just let it go... if she can't be bothered to treat you the same after something like that, shes not worth the effort.