Okay i've been with my boyfriend for going on 4 months now and he lives with me. We get along great at times but i was talking to his friend first and he really liked me when we were talking but i hurt him by going out with his bestfriend, he still loves me, and i still like him, but i love my boyfriend and his friend. i dont know what i should do, his friend and i secretly talk and it kills me to lie to my boyfriend but he doesnt want me to talk to him because the way he talks but we dont talk about anything wrong... what should i do stay with my boyfriend, soon to be husband... were engajed kind of... or should i go back to his friend
2007-04-09 14:57:58 · 11 answers · asked by i love rednecks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take them both on and see which one is better
2007-04-09 15:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure that out soon if you're engaged to your bf. It isn't right to talk to his friend behing his back. You know it isn't right. And if you really love your bf then there shouldn't be a question about what you should do. It sounds to me like you're definately not ready to get married. Not if only 4 months into the relationship you're secretly talking to another guy. And whatever you do, be careful because you don't want to come between two good friends. But do figure out whether or not you truly love your bf cus if you marry him without truly being faithful now, then you'll end up having an affair later. Don't hurt your bf and don't break up a friendship. Don't be selfish and try to have your cake and eat it too and them some.
2007-04-09 15:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by DRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell u something I've been there. If u love u boyfriend u should stay with him. Follow u heart. U should thing about which one is the best for u. Don't choose u boyfriend because u feel guilty about u are talking to u friend. But don't choose u friend just because he likes u. Love and just like somebody are 2 different things. Remember 2 mans in u life can cause a problem and u may end up with either one
2007-04-10 02:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say that its innocent converstion but i bet its so not innocent especially if u dont tell your bf about the WHOLE conversation.since u didnt talk to the friend the first time maybe that means he isnt the one for you. if u do break up with your bf, then him and his friend will hate each other. if u plan on ditching youre bf whom, u are not even sure that u r engaged too i would wait a few months b4 moving in on the new meat, that way he wont htink u r a skank thats out to get his friends. but remember they will share sex stories so dont giv e it up easily.make him work for it girl. good luck!!!
2007-04-09 15:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by missblack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF BF. Go with his friend because you can't really love one and be thinking so much about his friend. Obviously you like him more than you think.
2007-04-09 15:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by sandrota 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should clearly tell your boyreind that you love him but you are freinds with your boyfreind freind look ssweety the only way to make everyone happy is telling the truth so i just wanna say GOOD LUCK!!! and i will be more than sorry if i have made the problem.
2007-04-09 15:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by aj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to help! You have to decide what you want to do with your life, be a person that jumps from flower to flower, or be a person of character and dignity?
2007-04-09 15:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Toss the BF and take up with the friend!
2007-04-09 15:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful with this one... is it really worth giving up your relationship with your bf to pursue something that may not result in anything... but also if you cannot be honest with your bf then you don't have a relationship...
2007-04-09 15:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by nikki_pike1991 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be kind of engaged? You really don't sound like you want to marry him.
2007-04-09 15:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by kitmandoo22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋