My husband has some sort of mental disorder and I need a name (s) for it. He blames everything on the fact that he had no Dad and his parents were divorced. This is why WE fight, this is why HE can't hold a job, This is why HE can't be a good father and support his kids etc..also he is very happy one minute then the next he is depressed and angry and distant. He needs help. What kind of disorders are these?
2007-04-09 14:43:29 · 16 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
"Happy one minute then the next he is depressed and angry" suggests Manic Depression (Bi-Polar Disorder)
The rest appears to be Personality Disorder - Possibly Narciscistic Type.
2007-04-09 14:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by Shy Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no doctor, but the first part you mention, "He blames everything on the fact that he had no Dad and his parents were divorced...." probably doesn't involve any kind of mental disorder. Obviously, his parents being divorced and him not having a father is a deep-seated issue in his life. I can relate, as my situation is the same. I would recommend a good talk therapist for this, who would be able to help him heal from the hurt and the rejection and what not he still feels from this.
As for this: "also he is very happy one minute then the next he is depressed and angry and distant," it could very well be an expression of how he is feeling because of the issue you stated above and not a mental disorder at all. People with Bipolar Disorder do not typically switch moods from one minute to the next; it's more gradual than that. However, personality disorders do have more frequent and sudden mood swings, particularly Borderline Personality Disorder.
I would make an appointment with a talk therapist as soon as possible. If needed, they could refer your husband to a psychiatrist (who would prescribe medication if your husband does, in fact, have an actual mental disorder).
2007-04-09 15:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by LittleD1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with some of the people here. do not make this a disorder. why is it when people fail at things in life, it is automatically due to a disorder. i mean no offense but it is getting out of hand and trust me, thinking you have a disorder sometimes makes things worse, sometimes better, but it this case i feel it will be an excuse for him. he should go to therapy. also he is not manic or depressive, because those periods of happiness and sadness lasts for days and weeks. if he is angry one minute and happy the next, this is a sign of irritablity, not a mood swing.
2007-04-09 15:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by babeecakes510 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would diagnose him as immature and irresponsible. No matter what happened to him as a child, he is responsible for his own life and his own behavior. Blaming other people is an excuse to do whatever he wants. You can cure him by divorcing him. He sounds like a lousy husband and like a really obnoxious child. He doesn't have to be your problem. Get rid of him. Don't feel bad about divorcing him, because no matter what happens in his life, it will always be somebody else's fault. You and your kids deserve better.
Needing help isn't enough. He has to WANT help. Stop trying to save him and help him. He's not your problem. You have children to raise and a life to live. This guy wants to live with a stone tied around his neck while he swims in the river of self-pity. Don't let him take you down with him.
2007-04-09 16:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The happy vs. angry and depressed makes it sound to me like it might be bipolar disorder. But there is a deeper problem here. He needs counseling to work out his issues about his parents. It sounds like he has a lot of work to do. You might also want to consider couples therapy to work out some of this stuff. I think he's blaming a lot of his problem on someone else. One of my best friends said part of growing up is forgiving your parents. Sounds like that's what he needs to do so he can move on with his life.
Good luck!
2007-04-09 15:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by mur_f1013 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manic Depression/Bipolar
2007-04-09 15:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mungujacombamatagimba-the-4th??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he is happy one minute and depressed and angry the next is a direct and solid symptom of bi-polar disorder.
Bi-polar disorder is treated with anti-depressants and mood stabilizers.
2007-04-09 15:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by octo75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manic Depression aka Bipolar Disorder...Is what it sounds like 2 me....I know it can be difficult to deal with because my big sister suffers from the same thing!
2007-04-09 14:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually doesn't sound like a disorder so much as the fact he fails to own up for his own shortcomings. Don't give him the pleasure of naming it as a disorder (i.e that he can't help it) He just needs to get off his butt and get a job, be a good father, and stop fighting with you.
2007-04-09 14:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by sublime2500 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he could have a mood disorder and there are several types.
do a search for MOOD DISORDERS for more information.
meanwhile, no one can diagnose another person but a qualified doctor (and sometimes they can't even do it!).
it's not your fault he can't hold a job, and not your fault you two fight (arguments take two!).
2007-04-09 14:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋