I'm in a steady relationship now but I've had really bad luck with men - I have no problem speaking to them, but I can't interpret what they say. I'm well endowed on both fronts (breasts and bum), and guys spend most conversations staring at my breasts. Then they take my number, but never call, or if they do, they're only after ........... I'm a bright final year college student and intelligent, and I want a man as friend who is interested in my brain and not my breast. Why is that so difficult ?
2007-04-09 14:36:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wear baggy shirts and don't show cleavage
2007-04-09 14:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by T Time 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men can't SEE your brain. They CAN see your breasts, and if men are staring at them, it probably means that they think they are pretty, well-formed, and womanly. I'm not sure why you'd think that this was insulting.
Anyway, men will admire your brain AFTER you give them reason to suspect that you have one. Graduating from college is evidence of a good brain, of course, but it is not generally regarded as a definitive proof any more, since so many low-IQ duskies have gotten into even the elite universities on the basis of an athletic scholarship.
It's simply not reasonable to blame a man for admiring the most visible attributes sooner than those which are less visible. So fish for men with your body, but hook them with your mind, and you'll be able to take a nice one home to show off to your parents.
2007-04-09 14:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend is very well endowed also but for me the first thing I always look at is the eyes. The eyes can tell you alot about the person then I look at the mouth are you smiling if you are they you tend to be a happy person. Large breast are nice but they don't tell me a thing about the women. I will say that some large breasted women tend to wear things that announce there assets as you could say so sometimes guy's get mixed signals......
2007-04-09 14:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...what did you say? I was staring at your breasts, sorry.
It's so difficult because men are visually stimulated, unlike women. That is why you are having a hard time understanding why men do this, it's just the way they are. Clearly your boyfriend doesn't do that or you don't care he does. Asking for other guys to do so is too much, sorry but that is the way it is. You can either get use to it or get your breasts reduced, which I don't recommend since we like to look.
2007-04-09 14:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will always be a natural male instinct to do that, but they can try to show you enough respect not to continually do so. It will change with them as they mature. In the meantime, try to socialize in a more intelligent circle of acquaintances. You will still get some stares, but they will also be interested in your mind as well. Good Luck.
2007-04-09 14:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want them to notice your brain? Don't be embarrased by them staring at your chest. Instead, come at them with a witty comeback to get their attention! Ya know, something like...."Oh, I'm sorry, my boobs won't stop staring at your eyes." The one thing that guys will brag to other guys about is if the girl is hot and smart too! Don't ever dummy yourself down, that's not what guys like. They get bored with the dumb girl act quickly. And then they won't respect you at all. Dish out some of that college wit, don't be afraid to let them know exactly who they're dealing with.
2007-04-09 14:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult because most men are stupid. Those you don't know by now that women can tell that they're looking, aren't worth it. About the calling, don't give your number, ask for theirs. Put YOU in control of making the call and see what happens :)
2007-04-09 14:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by tr1ewq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that would depend on your gender and orientation! Whilst the questioner suggests that it makes her feel "powerful, beautiful and sexy", from observation, many women would simply find it embarrassing! So how a woman might react to a man overtly gazing at her breasts, would seem very much a personal thing!
2016-05-21 02:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by mayra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guys on the first date you don't have sex until you feel comfortable with them ; usually a few months. If they date you that long you will have a pretty good idea that they like you for you and not your breasts and fine assets.
2007-04-09 14:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by jeff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c men like breasts...what's so confusing about that...it's not like it some new fasination...men have loved breasts for a long time...next time call them out on it and tell them to stop looking at your chest or you will kick them in the nut sack...
2007-04-09 14:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lot of shirts with an arrow pointing up saying "I'm up here" when they look tell them read the shirt and either curse them out or continue on talking.
2007-04-09 14:48:05 · answer #11 · answered by STXman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋