my girlfriend cheated on me before. What should i do? I wanna stay with her and i love her so much. Im afraid of it happening again. She says it wont but should i believe it?
2007-04-09 14:14:06 · 17 answers · asked by psycho_kid61 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you have the trust built up in the relationship? Can you forgive her? Will she do it again? These are all the questions you need to ask yourself. IF you can forgive her then yes. If you trust her then yes. If you can put the past aside then yes. As to will she do it again? Don't know. But watch for the signs (you know now what to look for) and if you see them there, then run in the opposite direction, away, far away and don't look back. Find another girl who loves you for who you are. If she doesn't do it again, then you've found yourself a keeper. IT takes a lot of guts to admit you've cheated.
2007-04-09 14:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by angelchic971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's insecure...and is only with you because she knows you will treat her good but you're not what gets her hot... She will do it again and again...and the simple fact that you know she cheated and you took her back most definitely has made her lose respect for you...you're just a filler my friend...a guy to play with while she's looking...
I'm sorry this happened to you...
If I were you I'd treat her different...I'd put her on ice and start talking to other girls..she how she handles a little competition
2007-04-09 14:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think , once a cheat , always a cheat, If you cant trust her , and you cant get over it, then maybe the right thing for you , is to break up with her, I know it's hard, but it's worth it, when you find someone else that's faithful to you , and only you.
2007-04-09 14:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a self esteem issue. You feel as if she is the best you can do, so you hang on, even if it means she will be unfaithful. Bottom line, if they cheat once, they will be prone to cheat again. Maybe you drove her to it, but she STILL cheated. Get rid of her, then make yourself a better person.
2007-04-09 14:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by RXFORE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did she tell u she cheated on u??? how'd u find out??? if she was the one to tell u, then she's honest... and she probably does love u as much as u love her... sex is only sex, just because u have sex wtih some1 doesnt mean that u love that person... u could have sex with any1 and every1... but doesnt mean that u are in love with every1.... if i wre u, if i were in love with her-as much as u claim to love her- what i would do, is i would talk to her and ask her what kinda relationship she wants to be in... does she want to be in a stable relationship with one guy-YOU-, or does she want to have a polymorous relationship -with more than one person- whatever she says she would like most... and u don't mind being in a polymorous relationship... then u guys should talk to each other and set some rules... like u could talk whether u guys are allowed to have sex with other people, if u guys are going to have sex wth othe rpeople, does the other one has to be involved as well-a 3 some or orgy-... oor if u guys are going to be exclusive... then she should tell u whether she cheats on u again or not... and this time u will think about whether u shallforgive her or not...
that's what i would do... hoenstly im up for a polymorous relationship, with at least a 3-4 guys... but that everything we'd do stay in the love cycle... nobody could go outside the love cycle... i would love that...
but anyways, if u r up for something like that... i would suggest u to only do it with her, if she was the one who confessed u that she cheated on u.... if u found out on ur own... then i would dump her... becfause to me faithfulness is nothing really...i mean, i dont own anybody's body.... but 2 me the worst feeling in the world is to live ur life deceived....
2007-04-09 14:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either move on or get over it and and love her then build back up your trust in her!!! I mean like I just said once before to someone else you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do so all you can do is follow your heart and your first mind!!!
2007-04-09 14:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON- what do you want with a person that has cheated, a person you can't trust?
Remember her cheating on you will always be in your head and heart. Look for someone who will love you and who will respect you. :-)
2007-04-09 14:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of loving someone is to trust them. If you think that you cannot trust your girlfriend to not cheat then how can you trust them with your heart?
2007-04-09 14:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. Respect, Trust, truth and Communication are the keys to all relationships. If you loose respect and trust the other parts are hard to keep things together.
2007-04-09 14:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it will probably happen again. The girl likes attention. Take the sex and play hard to get. See her when you want to and not as often as she wants.
2007-04-09 14:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by bestbet77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋