hey all hi I am andrew I am dating a guy older then me im 18 yrs of age he is 40 yrs. of age he is very nice trustworthy,honest, a very good mentor to me. He tells me he cares about me which I have never even had anyone care about me. The story is when I feel me and him is drifting apart I will write him in the emails I sent him. When I call him he is always trying to make me laugh, I wonder why is he trying to do this when I think him and I is drifting apart. He tells me I am a hopeless romantic and he says he is one too. that sweet I mean I am happy and not very happy like I used to be.
why i think him and I are drifting apart is cause he usually doesn't call me any sweet names like he does before.
now he calls me sweetie pie tells me he is thinking about me and he also told me he cannot wait to fall in love with me what is going on with him and what is he trying to tell me will you guys please help me out I am desperate.
2007-04-09 14:10:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes I did met him online I flew down to see him
2007-04-09 14:19:47 · update #1
so who cares Olivia m if i am dating a 40year old you need to rethink your personal issues and stop judging me and stop acting childish i can date anyone i want to date get use to it buddy
its not always about the age its what deep down in my heart and we love eachother so screw you and the horse you rode on dumb *** Laughing My *** Off at YOU!!!
2007-04-17 11:24:45 · update #2
Okay...all you people...Andrew is asking for relationship advice, not lifestyle advice. If you have nothing positive to offer, then do him (and I) a favor and don't answer at all.
That being said, I am trying to find a positive answer for you, Andrew. Personally, I've been through this kind of thing before with a man who is now my husband. It seemed like it took so long, and there were so many times that I wondered what the heck was going on!
In your case, it seems like he may be acting kind of wishy-washy. Does he live far away from you? That may be an explanation. He may want to be with you, but is practicing a little self-preservation because he does miss you or is feeling a deep sense of longing for you. One of the reasons he is trying to make you laugh is because he doesn't want to see you down...and know that he is partially the cause of your sadness. It may make him sad as well. People deal with their feelings in a variety of different ways.
All I can really tell you is to take it day by day. I know it's hard and I'm sorry. Instead of concentrating on what is missing, try to do something fun, try to get your mind off of it even for just an hour. I know it's hard to take your mind off of something like this, but take care of yourself. Go out for coffee with a friend. Go to the park and think about how pretty the sky is. Treat yourself. Eat chocolate, lol. Things will pan out eventually, and when they do, I hope it's what you wanted. I wish you the best.
2007-04-17 12:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by GBH1310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am worried not only about the age difference between you two but also the disconnect from what you describe. It shouldnt be so confusing. There are lots people your own age that would be better for you so maybe you could take a break from him and try to focus on school and/or your job and making yourself as best as you can be. You are very young and your life will be super so dont feel that you have to stick with him because he says he cares. Give others that opportunity and they will too.
2007-04-09 21:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has experience and wisdom on you so that is something to be cautious about because he could be running game and stringing you along or you could just be a needy person that's looking for someone to smoother you with love and maybe he isn't that one but keeping looking your young you will surely find it Andrew...
2007-04-09 21:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you actually met this guy or do you just talk to him online?
If you haven't met him, maybe he just isn't interested in only chatting/talking to you on the phone and that's why he doesn't seem as interested in you anymore.
Otherwise, I'm not sure why you think you two are drifting apart, it seems to me like he is being really nice to you.
2007-04-09 21:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Am I correct that you are both male? And there's all this age difference? No wonder you're miserable! Can you just start over and try to get some part of your life straightend up because you have got it ALL wrong.
2007-04-09 21:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should sit down with him and do some serious talking - make him listen to your worries and why you have them and then you can ammend your problems and carry on with a loving relationship. Best of luck!
2007-04-09 21:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably trying to figure things out right now. Everyone goes through it in their relationship. I would just ask him to be straight forward with you when it comes to how he feels. Don't worry, things will work out. Good luck.
2007-04-09 21:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, ur gay right? No offense, just wondering. If so u might wanna ask this in the CULTURE section of yahoo. Anyway, about your q, well you need to do wat ur heart tells you, but he is kinda old 4 u.
2007-04-09 21:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you dating the 40 year old. thats sick you need to rethink your dating stratigies.
2007-04-17 16:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Liv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know
2007-04-09 21:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by scenicgg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋