well im 14 and i like this guy thats 17 and we've been talkin for awhile and then last weekend he finally asked me out and i said yes..(but i have to hide it from my mom) but anyways...i really like this guy.. but hes going to be 18 in june and i dont want him to get in trouble with the law...what do u think i should do...hes still a virgin so i kno he wouldnt go out with me for that...all we've done is kissed...but i think he likes me cause he can talk to me about anything and im very mature for my age...what do u think i should do?
2007-04-09 12:53:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i kno him, hes not the type of guy thats into sex..hes waiting for marriage but i've heard storys like a 13 year old with a 18 year old and once they got married when she turned 19..i dont wanna give up on him just because of his age..but i care about him more then i care about myself.
2007-04-09 13:03:55 · update #1
ok i kno him, hes not the type of guy thats into sex..hes waiting for marriage but i've heard storys like a 13 year old with a 18 year old and once they got married when she turned 19..i dont wanna give up on him just because of his age..but i care about him more then i care about myself.
2007-04-09 13:03:56 · update #2
dont worry bout the law as long as you love him it dosent matter..
2007-04-09 12:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by hisxbby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear, this is wrong on SO many levels. First of an 18 year old is an adult, and you are not. He should not be dating you, or touching you, or hardly even be a lone with you. I am not saying he's a bad guy, he might be a perfect gentleman, but still, it just isn't right.
Secondly, and even more important is your hiding all this from your Mom. You Mom is not the enemy (unless of course there is something you havent said). She loves you and her main job is to love you, and protect you. I hope you will come to see that she is there for you and you need to talk to her.
I am a Mom of 2 and a Grandma to 4 and believe me, I know how protective we Moms can be. :-)
2007-04-09 13:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by rose_32008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-28 07:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Love Kills:
I would say that if you have to hide it from mom, it's a bad idea. With him being 18, you'll be a minor & if you two decide to have sex, that could put him at further risk. If your mom finds out your hiding him? BAD IDEA & dishonest, too. Talk to your mom! Introduce him to her, be OPEN about it. If you two are starting to fall in love & if you say you are mature, then be MATURE about this issue & TALK to your mom, don't hide things from her. She's FAR more apt to accept you & an slightly older boyfriend if you are very honest about how you feel about him. Ask if you can have him over for dinner.
If your MOM cna learn to trust him & be comfortable with him, then perhaps you have a prayer, but at your age, I'm sorry to say, hiding things from your mom & lying to her is disrespectful to her & doesn't show that you are "mature" at all. Having good communication with your mom is essential & as soon as she realizes that you are an honest & responsible young adult, she'll be able to accept you growing up & having a boyfriend alot sooner. Best of Luck!
2007-04-09 13:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try this, tell him you like him but feel bad about hiding anything from your mom. Tell him you want him to meet her because he is so great, you cant imagine her not liking him. And tell him if you do date you have to adhere to your mothers rules. If he cares for you so much, this should not be a problem and he should not want to come between you and your mom.
Personally, I think he is tired of being a virgin and is targeting a younger girl because he thinks you are a push over. Falling for this line that you are soo mature is proof that you are a push over but I digress.
Do what I say and see what happens. I bet he jets.
2007-04-09 13:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-- Does it really make any sense to date someone you'd have to hide from your mom?
-- If he's so great, why not stay REALLY JUST FRIENDS for a while and revisit the possibility of dating at some point when mom and the law are not posing obstacles?
-- Don't assume he's *not* just interested in you for sex because [he says] he's a virgin! For some 17yo guys, this might be an reason to seek out a sexual partner...
2007-04-09 12:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 13 and I like an 18 year old guy...I had to give him up. It was way too much trouble. Remember that...because a lot of stress came upon me...it would be better if you both go seperate ways.
2007-04-09 12:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by XoPrincessXo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Especially if your parents would be angry, do not sleep with this guy. Your parents can press charges against him even if you don't want them to. My dear friend spent 2 years ni PRISON at the age of 18 for sleeping ith his girlfriend because her parents flipped and has to register as a sex offender for the rest fo hsi lfie!!!. Do not ruin hsi life or yoru own.
2007-04-09 12:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if u like him go right on !
cuzz when i was 13 a 18 year old guy asked me out and i said yes we dated for wawhile and yeah so if it seems right for u and him go on!
but if ur parents say no i woul d listen to them!
even though i didnt and now i cant live without a boy freind lol
2007-04-09 13:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by sparkle?steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you need to tell your mother. Why? Because she'll find out somehow, you'll disobey her trust and then she'll be really mad at you. It's a little bit of an age difference, but it could work.
2007-04-09 12:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst thing not to do is not telling your mom. if she finds out i'm promising you that she'll come down on you soo hard. it's kinda strange that you're worrying about him and the law. if he's known for breaking it, take my advice... don't go out with him no matter how cute he might be! good luck!
2007-04-09 12:57:32 · answer #11 · answered by magendazzler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋