i think so........but then, if you could know everything about your lover, would you?
2007-04-09 12:53:28 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think most people overlooked the word "lover" a lover in my opinion, is just a booty call, and since protection is being used no history is discussed. but those are old times, lol
2007-04-09 13:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Chrystopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a right to know if you have any diseases or anything that will put them at risk. They have a right to know if you have children, were a porn actor/actress, or had a sex change, and what your sexual orientation is. Other than that, they don't have a right to know anything. What's the point in knowing more anyway? At a certain age, everyone has a past. There aren't that many things that can be done sexually, so most everyone has done most everything at some point. If they're with you and they don't have any diseases....just roll with it.
2007-04-09 13:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by wintershinestar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a right to know SOME things, not everything. But yes, if you intend to have sex with them, it is reasonable for them to be concerned about STDs, just as it is reasonable for you to feel the same way. Details about each sexual experience are not necessary though. Mostly, I'd want to know how careful you were, how many partners you had and if any of them had any STDs or were at high risk. Makes sex with multiple partners not seem like such a great idea, huh?
2007-04-09 12:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's in the past should stay in the past unless it can be harmful to the future. The only thing you need to do is both get tested for any diseases when you first decide to be a couple and let the relationship go on from there. Your past will only make problems in your relationship. It's noone's business what happened before them. Mutually agree to keep the past in the past as long as it doesn't have anything to do with the present and won't kill you.
2007-04-09 12:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it is a neccessary part unless you have a child from that previous relationship. If it comes up in casual conversation then okay you can tell a bit but do not go into your whole life history. You said "lover" not fiance/fiancee or wife/husband.
2007-04-09 12:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Feline05 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me if you are serious enough to be intimate with someone, then you need to be serious enough to be honest with them. You don't have to go into detail about what you have done with who, just keep in mind that when you are intimate with someone you are also being intimate with all the people before you and the same goes for the other person. Don't be pushed into anything you are not ready for, and please use safe sex there are alot of diseases out there that could ruin your and your lover's life, think long and hard before you become intimate with them.
2007-04-09 13:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by patricia g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things that lend such info to health issues yes, but anything short of knowing about them being prostitutes I would think should be left in the past...it tends to change the emotional and mental purity of the bond that exist between a couple.
2007-04-09 12:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think they have a "right", but if you slept with someone that may have had an STD or something, you have an obligation to tell them, and they have an obligation to tell you if they did the same.
But if they're just asking constantly things like "So, how many people did you sleep with before me" you could probably just go, "Well I'm with you now, so..."
2007-04-09 13:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with me and my lovers im fine with knowing and telling but some people dont want to know and knowing can some times hurt a relationship.
2007-04-09 13:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by BOO BOO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past for me is not as much as important as my presnt time with my lover. For me, we are both born the time we met one another and the time our eyes met with devotion before love. So it is nonesense to dig after your lover since your heading ahead with all your sincere love.
2007-04-09 12:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Sara007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋