I've been asked to be matron of honor for a close friend. The friend and her fiance have lived together for 15 years and are just now getting married in August of this year. They recently brought a new house but have most everything they need since they came from an apartment setting. Do I still need to give a bridal shower or would it be in bad taste? Or is it up to the bride to decide if she wants one?
2007-04-09 12:28:59 · 13 answers · asked by Danushka 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ask the bride if she wants a shower thrown for her. No, it's not bad taste, she is getting married. Though admittedly it feels awkward after they have been together for many, many years. In some states their relationship would be considered a common law marriage. You can make it a personal shower for nice clothes, lingerie, bed and bath, and relaxation items.
Just a thought.
2007-04-09 12:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by teacupn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would ask her, if I were you. She may not want a bridal shower, since it sounds like they don't need anything that is traditionally given at a bridal shower. If you want to do something for her, maybe just get her and friends and family together for a girls' day or organize a bachelorette party. It's not in bad taste to give a shower, but it sounds like they're not really needing shower gifts. I think she'd appreciate the party, but one that you arrange with excitement and give with heartfelt love.
2007-04-09 17:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by clehl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not an old prude (well, I am old, but not a prude). I don't mind people living together; it is not my business. What I hate though is when someone who is living together decides to get married and expects the rest of us to celebrate as if they are starting a new life together.
The last wedding I went to, the people had been living together for about 8 years; they requested money because - after all- they had everything else they needed.
As you can tell, this is one of my pet peeves. And yes, a bridal shower would be in bad taste. How about a fun bachelorette party?
2007-04-09 13:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband & I got married on our 10th Anniversary together. My friends gave me a bridal shower just so we could follow tradition, have a party,& a photo session for the album.However one of the activities was giving everyone a 3x5 index card with an envelope each guest was asked to write an occasion on outside of envelope then on index card something they wanted us to remember on that occasion. Those cards meant more than anyone could have imagined.Some are still unopened so we still have special surprises waiting and our 4th Wedding Ann. is on Tues.So if you want to give a shower keep this in mind. If not don't.
2007-04-09 13:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by mds03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's ever up to the bride if she wants a bridal shower, but if she's been living with someone I would not give her a bridal shower. You could give them a housewarming and give them things that are not necessarily "needed."
2007-04-09 12:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by supertop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give a shower if you want to. They are getting married so go ahead and have one or see if someone else is doing a bridal shower.
2007-04-09 12:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a shower because it is proper for you as the maid or honor to do, also because it is HER DAY and there are always material and fun things to give. Now, it goes deeper than this. SHe is getting married and you as her friend need for her to have this special day. She willalways treasure the photos and the memories of this special time.
You are giving more thana shower--you are sealing a wonderful memory!!
2007-04-09 13:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by carol h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would buy them a gift card from a store that way they can buy whatever they are in need of down the road
2007-04-09 12:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by whalelovers2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definantly. Celebrate that they are finally taking that step. Throw a bash!
2007-04-09 12:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by artist0027 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure! give a shower! but you dont need to be as big! instead of people bringing household items have them bring stuff like lotions, perfumes, picture frames, finger nail polish...give her stuff to pamper herself since they should have most of the items like pots and pans
2007-04-09 12:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by uber_kiwi95 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋