How do I STOP stuttering????

Question

I've been stuttering ever since i was 5 yrs old. Now its getting in the way of job opportunites and even relationships. I don't know what to do and it so frustrating. I just wish i could not do it anymore but i can't. I realized i barely stutter w/ my best friend but i stutter the most w/ my parents. I even blame them for this problem because i grew up being afraid to talk. Do you think it'll ever go away??

Answer 1

Hi Ms Shadylover,

First let me tell you that I have known at least 2 people who suffered from serious stuttering; one of them wasted a lot of time and money buying "miracle" books, seeing dozens of doctors, etc; he is now a little better. The other one went through ups and downs on his own, but now things are looking up for him, and he barely stutters at all.

1. BE SELF CONFIDENT !

I am certain that you are a talented young woman with plenty of skills and charms, but your FEAR of stuttering gets more in the way of happiness than the actual stuttering:

You brought the answer in your question, "with your best friend" (with who you must feel very confident and at ease), you barely stutter. But as soon as a "difficult" situation arises, (parents confrontation, job search, dating), here it comes again.

2. GET OUT OF THE VICIOUS CIRCLE:

I understood that after talking extensively with my friends; here is what happened when he was looking for a job a few years ago:

First, he knew he tended to stutter in past demanding situations. Second, he was afraid as this was his first real job.
So as an interview approached he started whining that he'll never make it, that everybody in the office will laugh at him, etc. As he was already terrified of stuttering, here came more stuttering, making him feel even worse, ... and the added stress made him stutter again even more, I could not get a single understandable word sometimes.

I know that if he would have not started by imagining the worse, he could have been cool at his interview and get the job...

3. REEVALUATE YOUR SELF WORTH AND GO FOR IT.

You need to understand that what you have to say is important, and if you REALLY want it, you will voice it in a perfectly appropriate manner: and others will listen until you are done. If your heart starts beating high and you feel unsure when you're about to talk, slow down, take a deep breath and a few seconds, then speak when you are ready.

You must practice this state of mind, starting TODAY, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW: your homework is to go out, to call your friends even for a casual discussion, to voice your opinions, your disagreements, etc.

The WORST you can do is to isolate yourself, to avoid picking up the phone and to look for the easy way out.

CONCLUSION:

A few years ago everyone would have told you to go to a doctor; if you can do it, it can be a good idea, but most specialists today agree that stuttering is not in your mouth or in your vocal abilities; it is in your head, a place where only YOU can perform "surgery".

Talking to people is a tough task, but also an ultimately rewarding one when you will be able to assert an opinion, make a speech, or sweet talk your boyfriend... and I am sure you WILL be able to enjoy these whenever you will become aware that what you have to say is a valuable message that people are interested in hearing.

Be Strong, Good Luck, and remember the outcome rests on your will.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear that. You must get made fun of alot huh? Your problem can't be fixed just by advice people give you. You really should talk to a doctor and ask them why you stutter so much but if you already have done that then what you should do is look into treatment for yourself. Keep asking the doctors for treatmeant. Never give up. Don't ever blame anybody for this problem its not your fault either. You need help and someone who understands you. If I could help you in any way I would. but you sound like a normal person and your friends should think the same way and so should your family and even people you are talking to get job opportunites. I know how that maybe people can't understand why you stutter so much. but I can because you really need help and support for this. Good luck in finding your treatmeant.

Answer 3

How to Stop Stuttering
Stuttering can be a frustrating habit when trying to get your point across. Use this guide to help you quit!

Steps:
Think before you speak. Most people that stutter normally talk on the fly without second thought, which causes them to stutter. Think of the entire sentence in your mind and run it through before speaking.

Talk slowly. Discreetly emphasize each and every syllable of the words so that you can hear yourself say things. Do it discreetly otherwise you'd be talking too slow!

Practice Steps 1 and 2 on your own. It's better this way so that when you're in a group and trying to speak, it flows nicer.

Read the dictionary. If you plain' old just don't know how to say words, get up that dictionary and look up words. Just flip through it and pick a word and say it.

Let others know of your struggle so that they'll understand and help you with things.



Tips:
Be very patient with yourself. It's difficult to overcome stuttering, so you have to really be careful not to lose temper.
If you've tried everything you could but still have stuttering problems, seek an expert who can give you more professional advice.



Warnings :
Stressful situations can be particularly aggravating to a stutterer. If you find yourself in one, be especially mindful of letters and words that are difficult for you to say. However, be aware that even people that don't ordinarily stutter will in especially traumatic situations, so if something must be said (such as: "CALL 911!) say it as quickly as your stumbling tongue will allow and don't worry about what other people think.

Answer 4

A person's abnormal condition, like stuttering, can be due to inadequate physical development or psychological. A speech expert can diagnose which one. If it is physical, then science has a solution for it. Stuttering is not a new disease or condition. It has been with the modern man for as long as he lives. If it is psychological, a psychiatrist can conduct test, like hypnotism, or evaluate the person's past and present situation and environment that is causing this nervous manifestation. When the cause is determined, the solution can be made. And the person can manage his behaviour to consciously check himself from stuttering. The message is consult the proper specialist for this condition.

Answer 5

I come from a family of stutterers and know that with the right information, determination, and constant work you can overcome your stuttering. Several of my uncles and cousins found help through The Stuttering Foundation and used their book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" working through the chapters step by step and then going back through them again and again. One uncle went to a speech therapist that was recommended to him by the Foundation and became very fluent, rarely stuttering. There are lists of therapists who are trained to work with stutterers on the Foundation's web site at www.stutteringhelp.org.

Answer 6

They used to recommend calling directory assistance - but now it cost money to do that. Try singing what you want to say.I have the same problem kind of- I never get to finish a sentence because people interrupt me- then when I have a chance to talk I can't seem to do it in one streaming sentence. I hesitate. Is a speech therapist out of the question? Normal to stutter with parents- terrifying aren't they.

Answer 7

out of experience, the degree of sluttering goes up and down between periods of time for me. I never slutter on curse words.
Have you ever sung in a chorus or spoke with other people at the same time? if you havnt, you will notice that you will not slutter. with that in mind i saw a NBC Today thing about sluttering, and it was kinda cool, theres this new device that goes in your hear, and it enhances your voice so you can hear it more precisely, so it seems like your saying something with two people. I feel your pain, and i really hope this helps.

Answer 8

try and breathe and slow down before you speak dont get in a rush...think of what you will say before you say it...many children and adults have prolems with stuttering it wont go away but you can try to control it

Answer 9

problay.
this might help
* try to talk to your self in the mirror
if that dosn't help then when your with the people that make you studder. Confront the problem with your self (in your mind) and tell your self to CALM DOWN and then that should help you not to studder.

Answer 10

i i i don't know b b but maybe you nnn need to see a sp sp speech therapist.