I have been dating a guy for 3 months and I am starting to see that he is "just not that into me". He is 27 and I am 32 so I should have known not to get serious with him. I am seeing some red flags so I know I need to move on. I have feelings for him so its hard to just cut him off. I really like him but I don't see the feelings being recipicated and I feel that I am putting more into him than he is me and it hurts. He does things like barely returns my calls, he'll say he is coming to see me and never show up, etc. He calls or texts me when he doesn't hear from me so I talk to him because I like him a lot. Why does he put effort into doing this when he knows he is not into me like that? Why all the games? I am really on an emotional rollercoaster with him so I know I have to cut this off before he totally breaks my heart. I deserve better. Emotions are something you just can't hide so please give me adivice on how to cut someone off that you strongly like.
2007-04-09 11:29:00 · 9 answers · asked by chocolatebabycakes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He isn't playing a game, he is just showing you himself and his level of involvement. Why does he keep going, because he is getting what he wants with minimum effort. When you look at it that way, the question would be why not?
At your age you should know how to break up with a guy, so you are really asking a different question. If you should keep going with him. That depends on what you want out of the relationship, seems it's not enough. Just be clear and tell him that it is completely over...as if you didn't know that already.
2007-04-09 11:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously figured out that the relationship needs to end - if you really care about this guy - you need to step up to the plate and just end it. Break up. Do it. You're going to be the bad guy (girl) - this is true - but someone always has to be.
Don't be friends. Don't take some time off. Don't tell him you need space. BREAK UP. END IT.
It will hurt him at first but if you just end it and don't play games, he will be able to heal and move on much faster.
When people try and "spare the feelings" of the person they are breaking up with, it is usually because they don't want to be the "bad guy". Screw all that. the right and noble and correct thing is to just dump him (especially if you know it is not working) and move on. Better for you. Better for him.
2007-04-09 11:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by mantoothnation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what these things mean.
He's the only one that can really answer this.
Think of it this way. If he can't communicate to you how he's feeling and why he does certain things, even though it's important to you that you find out, then that's a sure sign you need to move on.
But, give him the chance to justify himself. He may have an explanation.
Best of Luck.
2007-04-09 11:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by scotthomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it best ' you deserve better' . First of all you said he barely returns your calls so please stop calling him. Then if he calls, do not answer. It will be hard at first but then if you HAVE to confront him sometime in person just be above it all and say ' Oh Im sorry Ive just been busy and be aloof. ' Be careful. Think of this rationally and cerebrally , not emotionally. It will be hard but then worth it later. You CAN do it.
2007-04-09 11:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, this is hard. I've done it.
First of all, don't do the whole sighing "we need to talk" thing. it's very cliche and kind of a give-way.
And you don't nessicarially have to break it off. Talk to him about what he's been doing- tell him that it hurts your feelings, express how you feel, and all of that. Make sure he knows how much you like him.
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2016-10-02 10:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and tell him that you feel that you want to end the relationship and get on with your life and wish him the best with his and hope that he finds what he really want and needs in life.
2007-04-09 11:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you tell the truth it will set you free. So I would say tell him how you feel. If he doesn't try to stop you leave him if he shows he cares stick with him.
2007-04-09 11:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go to his house and tell him what you have said here, and state that you don't want to meet for a while.
There is no other way of doing it respectfully.
2007-04-09 11:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋