Should I GIVE it to him???

Question

well, there's this guy that i met in college last year & we started hanging out a bit & talking.....we liked eachother but things didn't progress because he was moving far away to go to another school....

we've kept in touch for a yr now, he'll call randomly & leave messages and txts saying things like "i need a gitl like you" but that's it, he never asks me out & he only calls once in awhile.....

recently i told him like it is while we were on-line, i was like "you need to figure out what you want & stop confusing me" he said he was going to & that he would call me the next day......but never did....i don't know if he's shy, doesn't wanna be bothered, or if he thinks I don't like him....I wanted to know if i should call even if he didn't call me???

Answer 1

yeah if you wanna be a booty call

Answer 2

I was in a similar situation.... except I was the guy. I dated the girl for 3 months (little more than friends, little less then going out). She knew I was moving 5 hrs. away, which is why she never opened up to me. We became good friends when i left, and called each other once a week, talking for a long while. but then I stopped calling. the ball was in my court, and i just thought that i could not move on if i talked to her like we were. so a half a year went by and finally she got ahold of me on a friend's cell phone (i hadn't given her my new #). we started talking a lot more than we even had before over the phone. The time and distance just made us want each other even more, and on spring break I visited her. we hit it off and ever since we've been going out (1 yr.). I'd say give him a little time and in a couple months, if he doesn't call you, give him a call. long distance relationships can work out if you can at least see each other once a month for a weekend. believe me, i'm living proof of that.

Answer 3

Well, it says something that you guys have stayed in touch all those months after he went away. He must see something in you that he likes or he wouldnt bother to talk to you. I think that if you have to figure out what you really want from him. Then call him and tell him the way you see things going. If he doesnt answer or if he cant give you a straight answer, he probably needs more time to think, or he really is shy and doesnt know how to let you know he really likes you. If you guys have been talking for the past year, you should be able to call him even if he didnt call you back...

Answer 4

ok obviously he feels pressured. he dont wana damage the relationship but of course some guys tend to confuse lust with love i have guys tell me they love me they wana marry me but wen the time comes they fall back as in shy u know like talk the talk but not walk the walk. Call him once every 2 weeeks then once a month and keep in touch with him. dont get mad at him or say what do u want etc cuz then he will feel like ur demandin an answer.

if you really wana know if he wants u then test him. Telll jokes then say jokingly o yea right u want me to be ur gf ahahha and if says im serious then ask him what he likes bout u besides ur looks and personlality and ask how r u diff from any other girl and if u like his answer then cool if he duno then he has lust for u not love

ur nothing but a backup if he likes u for lust as in if all else fails ur the one he has wrapped around his finger and can do what he wants with you without permission.

Answer 5

Ask him, If he wants a girl like you than what is his hold up cause you are the girl in the flesh. Or if it is that confusing for you then just stop answering the phone when he calls and stop answering the emails and move on ,then if he wants a girl like you and there is no other like you then he will come to get you or do his damnedest to get too you.

Answer 6

Sorry honey, that speaks volumes...he didn't call. I think you already know the answer. If you call him, I hope it's to tell him how much of a coward he is. You deserve better than this. If you accept this type of behaviour now, this is what you'll get from him in the future. You can bank on that.

Good luck, and know that you are worth 100 of him.

Answer 7

Geographic space between people is a big deal. Nearly impossible to keep a friendly neutral relationship with space. Best you let whatever you two have fade. That' ll probably happen pretty fast as soon as one missed response or a purposely missed online respond etc

Answer 8

I wouldn't as he didn't follow through with what he said he would. He should have called you or text you to tell you something. I would not count on him. Move on to someone who will pay attention to you as you deserve.

You told him already that you were confused by his actions and he knows and couldn't follow through. There is a "right guy" out there for you.

Answer 9

Sure you could call. When you do just act normal, don't question him. See how the vibes are before you say anything. That way you won't make yourself look like a fool. I will be honest with you. Too me, it sounds like he's just playing you and he's not interested in a relationship.

Answer 10

i wouldnt call him.if he was really interested in you he would have already made a move.it sounds like he just wants to be friends,or he wants you to be hes booty call.im sorry.but when a man really likes a woman they are all up on it.if you know what i mean.so you probably pushed him away when you told him you kliked him.thjats why hes never called you back.find someone else that wants to be with you and not playing games.

Answer 11

Well dont be disturbed by his actions, most "normal" guys dont prefer much phone usage. Also it might be a good thing that he is not bugging you because its giving you both space to work with. Pursue a relationship with him cautiously because he might have someone else or might not be the one for you. Also be straight forward with him, make him visit you for a week or something. See what you can get out of him, see if he is really down for you like you want him to be.