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How long does it take to stop grieving over a beloved pet? My beautiful 10 yr old persian baby is being put to sleep today due to illness and my heart is breaking in two....its one hour till the due time and my grandparents are bringing her in....not sure how to cope.

2007-04-09 09:17:32 · 37 answers · asked by Asha 1 in Pets Cats

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Asha, I am so so sorry for you and your kitty. Hugs to you though for being selfless enough to stop your baby's suffering. It is the hardest yet kindest act a pet parent can do.

Grief is different in each person. But time will make things better. Just time. And maybe, once you heal a bit you could rescue another baby that needs a home. Many people find comfort in helping another animal.

You should visit www.petloss.com, a site for greiving pet parents. You may be able to find some comfort there as well.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss. *tears*

2007-04-09 10:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 7 · 0 0

I am so sad to hear. It will take time and how long depends on you. Each person is different. Just know that you are doing the right thing keeping your baby from suffering any longer. Don't rush yourself and don't feel bad if the pain doesn't go away right away. You need to grieve and work through the pain in your time. Do try to keep your mind occupied and keep busy this will help. Get back into a routine and each day you will begin to see progress. A good friend is never forgotten. Pets are special and only those who love animals get the honor of that extremly special bond. You were fortunate to be loved by a special little baby and sounds as though she was loved very much too and she knows that. When you feel the time is right (it may be a while) maybe you could rescue a shelter animal in honor of your baby. I wish you the best and my heart goes out to you during this rough time.

2007-04-09 09:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by bosciemouse 2 · 2 0

I am so sorry for your loss. I, too have had to make this heartbreaking decision in the past and it is never easy. You did the right thing by taking advice from the professional, vets are amazing people and it's worth remembering that their training is several years longer than that of a doctor. They always have the animal's welfare at heart. We had a cat which the vet and we kept going for 4 years until her quality of life was too poor with no hope of improvement. It is all about the animal. Do they have a good quality of life, or are they just existing and we are reluctant to let go? I'm sure that you were a good cat owner, keeping her going for 6 years and responsible enough to consult the vet regularly. The money is unimportant compared to giving the animal the best chance, but the vet sees more medical conditions and knows the progression. Of course you feel terrible, but your cat is not in pain or discomfort. You did your very best, and I salute you. My best wishes.

2016-05-21 01:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

As hard as it may be, you need to be there for kitty. I'm sure you are as important to her as she is to you. You will grieve for some time, but know how lucky kitty was to have an owner that realized how precious she is. So many cats don't have that. Rest well in the fact that you gave her the best possible life you could when she's here.

After some time, you will begin to heal. Then it will be time to bless another. The new arrival will never take kitty's place in your heart, but will only enhance your love for a wonderful pet, companion and friend.

2007-04-09 10:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 0 0

I hope it helps you to see how many of us know exactly how you feel and are sharing your pain right now. Share your grief with those friends and relatives who know how it feels to love and lose a pet. You will feel better one day, but it will take some time. I don't know if you're familiar with Rainbow Bridge, but it helped me when I lost a beloved cat many years ago.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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2007-04-09 11:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kathryn 6 · 0 0

My heart goes out to you. The grieving process is different for everyone. Try to find someone who understands and talk to them. Let your feelings out...it helps. I cried for four months after I lost one of my cats. I still think about him and miss him. I know you may not want to hear this but adopting a new cat or kitten may help ease your pain. Adopting an unwanted animal will always make you feel better. It may ease your pain to know that you're giving a loving home to a homeless cat or kitten. My deepest sympathies on your loss.

2007-04-09 10:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by Am_I_Bluffin'?? 4 · 0 0

I am so very sorry for you. I have 3 persians now and had to put my beloved Tarzan down 3 years ago. I still grieve, it's not as painful now as it was in the beginning but I still feel it. Tarzan was my first cat as an adult, "my" cat. She followed me everywhere, snuggled with me everytime I sat down. She was everything to me. One thing that I did was I bought a necklace with her birthstone in it. I had it on a long chain so that it stayed close to my heart. Other then that, it's a day by day process. Again, I am so very sorry for your lose.

2007-04-09 09:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by KD 3 · 2 0

There's no time limit on how long you'll grieve sweetie. Yes, the tears will stop, but the missing them will never truly stop. The sadness fades until you just have nice memories of your pet.

Just know that you're doing what is right for her, although it is so hard for you, if she's ill and in pain, this is what she would need for you to do for her. It's the ultimate act of love.

Grieve, she deserves to be missed.

Prayers to you....

2007-04-09 09:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by BVC_asst 5 · 2 0

One of the hardest decisions that I have ever had to make was give the okay to put my cat to sleep last December 23. He came down with anemia and after blood transfusions and surgery (I thought he was improving) they called me late that evening and said he had arrested and I need to tell them whether to keep giving him CPR or euthanize him---he had suffered so much for 4 weeks, I just could not put him thru anymore suffering. I was devastated for the next two months--crying everyday---I WAS miserable. Petloss.com is a great website---really helped me to get thru---everyday I was there talking to someone.
I am convinced I will never get over his death----because I don't know what caused it----it gets a little easier as time passes but you still have waves of grief that hit you like a punch in the stomach when you are not expecting it---that is still going on with me ---sometimes I wonder if that will ever end---maybe not.
I am so sorry for your loss---just hang in there and talk to people--there are alot of websites dealing with loss and they really help---don't hesitate to check them out.
I am saying prayers for you and your pet. God bless you.

2007-04-10 01:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by felix8462 4 · 0 0

Some thoughts that might help ...

You are ending her suffering, not her life. The illness is what made her life not worth living.

She doesn't love you any less than she used to. Her body just won't let her.

She'll understand that you like cats and you like being around them, so don't feel guilty when you feel you're ready to get another cat. Your Persian knows that you helped her to have a good life and she knows you well enough to know that you can do the same for another cat.

2007-04-09 09:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Navigator 7 · 3 0

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