nose peircing!?

Question

im 16 years old and i really want to get my nose peirced, just a little stud. i talked to my mom about it and told her that i would even pay for the whole thing. she hasnt given me an answer for like 2 months and i really wanna get it done.i told her that if she doesnt like it after i get it done then i would just take it out,and i told her she can watch the person peirce my nose and stuff. ive been giving her all these options to make her decision easier but idk if its working. she always asks "what if it gets infected...blahblahblah" and she even called the peircing place and asked them questions about it,and they said it would be fine. i ask her if i we can go every few weeks and she still says "she's on the fence about it"
my dad would probably be ok w/ it if she was but i want to get it done soon!!
any adivce on how i can convince her more?!

my mom's afraid how it might look during a job interview but i could always use a retainer for the whole, right??? she thinks "i'll regret it when im older" but its my body, and if i regret it, then so be it, im perfectly fine with the "consiquences" and ive mentioned this to her!!

Answer 1

Whoaaaa my mom are same and im sure all mom will be like that.
without telling i got my nose pierced.

before i got my tats she told me already that she will iron it if i do,then i did but no iron flew at my tats.

But let me tell you this,you should know how to calm her down once you did it without her consent and
if you get her consent defenitely you will not have one.

but dont do it now,wait another more 2 yrs.

goodluck!

Answer 2

Sounds like you've done a pretty good job so far. You've handled things properly and it shouldn't be too hard to get her off the fence.

Since she's worried that you may regret it, explain to her that you can always take it out when you get older if you don't like it anymore. It will leave a small scar, but no worse than a minor acne scar (you probably wouldn't even notice it after a few months time)

As for job interviews, many places will allow a small nose piercing so it's not too much of an issue. Worse case, you will need a retainer for interviews. They hide the piercing quite well (but it won't be invisible). Nose piercings are one of the most accepted in the work place because they hold religious significance for some cultures (and they're not allowed to ask about your religion in an interview)

Getting it done at a reputable studio will cut your chances of infection. Just as important is proper aftercare. If both are done correctly, the chances of infection are minimal (point out to her how many people have their noses pierced, if infection was common, that works out to be a lot of infected noses!)

Explain to her again how important this is to you, and while you don't want to rush into anything, you've given it a lot of thought and done your research. Assure her that she can come to the studio with you, ask the artist all the questions she wants so that she can be totally comfortable with it. (we often get parents who ask 1000 questions before signing consent forms, we're used to it, and like to see parents taking an intrest in what their kids do!)

Good Luck!

Answer 3

You are doing the right thing so far, keep her informed, that will definately help, being as she will see that you are not trying to hide anything from her, you are being open and mature about everything. Yes you can get a retainer for your nose for jobs, take her to the piercing place and they will show her the clear retainers they have for nose piercings. Not to mention I work in a Doctor's office I have nose piercing and they are ok with it as long as I either have a very small stud in or a retainer so it's not a big deal. Answer her questions, offer to take her to places where professionals can answer her questions and show her the options of having the nose piercing. If you decide to take it out the whole closes rather quickly and leaves very little evidence that it was ever there, so that too is not a big deal. Adding Vitamin E to the hole after it closes will prevent any scarring. Just continue to be open with her and willing to help her understand that it's not as big of a deal as it used to be to have a facial piercing. Hope that helps! Hang in there she will come around.

Answer 4

It's good that you are respecting your mom's opinion and not getting it done behind her back. It shows that you are being mature about it. But the way mom's think, they don't understand why their perfect child would want to punch holes in their bodies. I don't know if there is any way to convince her otherwise.
I also wanted to point out that although the piercing may not get infected, keloids can form. I am dealing with one right now, and let me tell you, it's not pretty. You have a big ugly bump right by the ring. Just wanted to throw that out there, not to try to scare you, but just so that you realize that other things can go wrong, other than infection.

Answer 5

yes, i think your mom is hoping that if she stalls long enough without giving u a direct answer, that you`ll just give up on it or maybe decide not to have it done on your own...i personally think that i would rather my daughter get a tattoo or piercing, than have her involved in drugs, alcohol, or practicing unsafe sex!!! it`s true that your nose piercing may have an effect on your future in the job market, but it`s also true that many places allow nose piercings as long as it`s just a small stud...it really depends on the type of work u intend to pursue later on...just sit down & talk with her about it, explain why u want it, that you`ll take responsibility to care for it to ensure it doesn`t get infected, etc...beyond that, i really don`t know how you can convince her if she`s dead-set against it, but u can always try!!! good luck!!!

Answer 6

well I got my nose pierced in grade 6! Anyway, what I wanted to tell you was that if you wear a pretty little diamond or something not too noticeable, it actualyl really adds to you style and isn't at all rough looking. So i wouldn't worry about job interviews and such beacause I wear mine everywhere an I've been told its very classy! If you choose to take it out for a certain occasion go right ahead, after a while it's as easy as putting your earrings on!

Answer 7

Hey there!
I'm 32 and pierced my own nose when I was 15.

Tell your mom that even in those unsanitary conditions (using an old earring and ice to numb it!) I did not get an infection.
It's been 17 years later and I've never had one issue. I currently wear a tiny (1mm) stud that I purchased on my 21st birthday, so it's been in for 11 years no issue.

If I take it out, it will heal within several hours even 17 years later. So, tell your mom to let you have it. If you hate it..or she hates it...it'll grow up fast!

Answer 8

I applaud you on doing your homework on getting your nose pierced but your mom probably will not cave, i would just consider waiting until your 18 and get it done yourself.

You don't need to worry about it looking unprofessional for an interview, i have a pro. job and i got it wearing my nose ring, if its small enough they wont even notice. My boss didnt until i actually pointed it out to her which i thought was funny.

If you are pretty persistant about getting it now, is there a certain reason you want your nose pierced in highschool, try talking to your dad and see if he will help on getting your mom to agree.

My mom told me one thing when i was 16, she said you can go and get whatever pierced or ink'd but you have to wait until your 18 and you pay for it yourself.

Moms can be very stubborn and to possibly avoid a fight I sugguest just waiting it out, its only 2 more years or less.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

heres whatcha do tell your mom that you just want to try it to see how it looks and that the kinds of jobs you'll have this early on dont really bother with a small tiny piercing like that furthermore by the time "college" comes around you would have probably already reaped all your wild oats and gotten rid of it.... make sure to use the college word as much as possible.... P.S. good luck and get a psychology book :).

Answer 10

She's really hoping if she stalls you long enough, you'll come to your senses and forget the whole thing. My daughter learned the hard way. I let her wear her hair however she wanted. (Hair grows back, right?) So, she had her hair shaved close on the bottom half of her scalp and the top half of her scalp was long hair. She would wear it in a high pony tail so you could see the shaved part. People started treating her differently and she didn't like it. She let it grow back out. Oh, and she didn't have a scar on her nose.