My mother in law was angry because I didn't offer her any of the expenive "Mommy Chocolate" and only offered the "share" box. I have 4 kids, and I only get the expensive choc 2x per year.
Was I wrong not to offer her the chocolate?
2007-04-09 07:50:38 · 21 answers · asked by say_tay 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No.
she should no better to come between a woman and her chocolate.
I think she was just jelouse.
He baby boy isn't pampering her anymore.
2007-04-09 07:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong. I think it was nice of you to have the box to share with your kids and anyone else, but it is your special day. There is no reason why you should have to share your gift with anyone. You might refrain from eating the special chocolate when everyone is there. If you didn't open that box yet, then it would be extremely rude for your mother in law to expect you to share that box. I would just open the shared box first, and open the other box later in private.
2007-04-09 08:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the situation entirely, but it sounds like the rudest person was your husband for giving you the Mommy's chocolate in front of everyone else. While it surely wasn't intentional, after all we don't offer up our birthday sweater for all the guests to put on, it showed a lack of awareness. It's polite to offer sweets to guests, especially when waved in front of them and labeled Mommy's (perhaps that's why she was angry? It was labeled for her too!). But what guests don't know about can in good conscience not be offered. Your husband should have given such an exclusive item in private and you should have taken pains to hide it from everyone if you wished not to share.
I'd like to add that it does seem to be a good opportunity to teach your children the valuable lesson of considering others feelings in regards to special things. Your mother-in-law is far beyond the learning stage and probably felt since the lesson was being taught, you might have learned it and offered her some.
2007-04-09 10:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother in law is in the wrong! If it's your special treat it is rude of her to even assume she should be able to have some. If say she received a gift set of lotions for her birthday would she assume you would be able to go through and take some that you wanted? I wouldn't feel bad for a second. She obviously didn't understand it was your 'gift'. I think she is selfish for expecting you to share your presents. You shouldn't even acknowledge she is angry.
2007-04-09 08:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother-in-law was the rude one. You were right to do what you did. It was your present and you could do whatever you wanted with it. At least you shared your chocolate instead of horded it away. Too often mom's think they need to look after people before themselves, and it seems like your MIL has that idea. It's about time mom's start looking after themselves, which is what you did. Kudos to you!
2007-04-09 07:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She was wrong. She should not have expected to share any of your birthday candy. How rude on her part. She is just being petty. Have your husband talk to her about how he buys these for you to be from your kids and he buys the other to share.
2007-04-09 07:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother-in-law would have appreciated the expensive chocolate more than the children. You were not wrong in not offering her the chocolate, but if you had it might have made a better impression.
I don't want this to seem judgmental, because I don't know you at all, but was not offering her any just an oversight or were the expensive chocolates more important to you than she is?
2007-04-09 08:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, you were not wrong. In the futute, your husband should present you with your special chocolate in private in order to prevent another uncomfortable moment.
I can sympathize. I splurge once or twice a year on Godiva and I will defend it with ferocity.
2007-04-09 07:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! I would have told her to back her *** up off my chocolate-go buy your own free loader! And your mother in law is petty over not being offered chocolate...she needs to grow up, seriously.
2007-04-09 07:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by brideofsatan_1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't wrong or rude. Keep yo' b-day chocolate to yourself, darlin'; if she's that upset about it...KICK HER IN THE CROTCH!, and then offer her the sharing chocolate. See if she still has a problem with it then...
2007-04-09 07:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by full_tilt_boogie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋