If your teenage daughter's grades have suddenly started going down, but she says you're too nosy, and she won't talk about it.
2007-04-09 07:41:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well I hope she wouldn't need to be spanked at that age.
If she were my daughter (understand mine are all under 11, so I don't have teens yet) I'd explain to her that we need to communicate about what the issue is, and since her grades have drooped, and she is refusing to talk about it, she is grounded from "EVERYTHING" phone, IPOD, friends..... plus all activities need to be supervised, I will take, and pick her up from school (if it's really bad, I'd escort her from class to class)
This is all to last until we (mom and dad) get to the bottom of the issue. The sooner she starts talking, the sooner her we can get to addressing the issue, and the sooner she is off her grounding.
Good Luck
2007-04-11 22:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Call her guidance counselor and get a meeting set up with her teachers. They can tell you what's up if she won't. She's either skipping or not doing her work or has changed friends, etc. Go to school right away and find out. Nosy? Ummmmmmmmm, you're her mom. Take away the cell phone, computer, car, whatever, until the grades come up!
2007-04-09 07:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by DuneFL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being a mother I would get to the bottom of this nosy or not. talk to her teachers, snoop in her room for clues, follow her, check emails and websites she may have used! when you are a parent then you have to be the bad guy if being called nosy bother you then you need to get strong being nosy means you care! Sorry to all you teenage girls just be thankful I am not your mother, see I was also a teenage girl and I know the tricks and believe me I will be on my daugthers butt tighter than her underwear!
2007-04-09 07:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What going down to you? What is acceptable grades waht isn;t? If you are one of those parents that want straight A's or pretty damn close and there getting C's calm down and also can;t help you...however, If our the parent that is happy with B's and C's and your only seeing D's and F's well....I think i can help. SOMETHING IS GOING ON. The only reason a kid will do badly in schoolis because its either A. too hard or B. Something is bothering them. When I was a teen my life got turned upside down I did horrrible in school I am not dumb by any means but I did horribly. I was very depressed for a very long time. My mom tried yelling, screaming, lecturing, grounding, CRYING, doing it with me, doing it FOR me. But nothing nothing worked till I went to the Dr. and got some anti-depressents. I am not saying that your daugher need meds just saying you might want to look at it.
Another thing you said was she didn;t want to talk about it. There is a chance that there is something wrong and she cant tell mom. When something is bad sometimes its easier to tell a stranger or someone not close to u cause they don;t judge or if they do it doesn;t matter but they could possibly give some advice. I had a lot of problems in teen yearrs and never went to mom I couldn;t i internalized alot but i would also go to my friends or to the school councelor or somethiong like that not mom. My mom had a lot on her plate i never wanted to stress her even more or disapointed her cause somehow i got myself in a bad position. I was embaressed of the situattion or myself. I would blame myself that i was upset even though it was natural to be in the circumstances I was in. Get her into some counceling...someone on the outside that might be your ticket to whats going on in the inside....also get involved with her friends talk to them dont be nosy just talk and if they see that that your concerned and just loving your daughter and if they are good kids they will be too and will talk to u about it and will tell you anythin gyou need to know to help her.
2007-04-09 13:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jewels 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be the parent, sweetie! Talk to your daughter and the counselors at school, and work together on getting her grades up!
You do not want her to fail, you want her to succeed so do whatever you have to do to improve the situation!
It is hard, you want to be their friend, but you also have to put your foot down and be the parent, and if they do not realize what you are doing for them now, then they will thank you later!
But now it is time for you to be the parent!
Nobody said being a parent is going to be easy but check with friends, counselors at school and anyone you can think of to help you resolve this situation!
2007-04-09 07:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this. I grounded her from her friends...no going anywhere until she picked her grades up. We had some talks too, where I told her I know how smart she is, and I'm disappointed at what she's showing me. She's a social person, and the grounding thing worked. I also threatened to talk to her teachers to find out what's really going on. She wants to go to prom, but I told her until her grades improve, forget it. Believe me, she's working diligently to improve them.
2007-04-09 18:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by cyndi a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY SIMPLE....start out by talking to her teachers....find out what going on....second....ground her but to the house until they get better....if dhe don't have time to study she don't have time to go to the movies or parties or whatever.....she is going to get pissed but that part of being a parent.....
also put in some incentives for good grades....I know that for every report card for every A+ i got 15 bucks and for every A I got 5....not much, but it was still an incentive.....
also is it one class or every class....if its just one it might be the subject and a tutor could do that...
2007-04-09 08:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by yetti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when my grades started going down when i was in High School , i just couldnt care any more because the teachers didn't let me do the subjects that i wanted to do.
try talking to her to find out why, if not you then a reletive or a friend.
hope this helps.
2007-04-09 07:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by newbie ice hockey fan & TV serie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER spank! I suggest talking to the teacher and making your daughter make up all the work
Believe me, bad grades can be very stressful for a kid, but she should make it up!
2007-04-09 08:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen with your eyes. Be very attentive but not overbearing. Hire a secret investigator (of course don't tell her that you used one) but it may shed some light on the situation. Check her eating habits. Have a Parent - Teacher conference.
2007-04-09 07:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by K B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋