to the 2nd part of my, can i trust again ?

Question

I find it hard because i was married to my x for 15 yrs..we were 18 yrs old, have had 3 kids. been divorce for 6 yrs now, and i have overcome all that baggage and truly have forgiven him....only after 6 yrs giving my trust back to some one new, to get slapped down again....so? are there any true soldiers in this world left?lol

Answer 1

Yes the problem is would you know them if you saw them? Honest what on tv, movies, parents, or society has taught you what the true soldier is? Is it some john in a uniform? Is it some scientist in a lab? Some CEO in a phat office making money off the little man? Is it some little man in a auto shop getting screwed by the big CEO in his phat office? Nope its never that simple are else you wouldn't be here. Understand this bit of wisdom, like its the law, always look at a person purpose outside of you and his family relationships. See if he has something else he is living towards thats not dependent on how well he is treated, respected, or admired. Realize that man needs purpose (yes religion use to work but look at the world now, it isn't enough, you have to be stronger then an institution!) that you can trust, that way no matter who you are, what you are, or how you treat him, or fail him, he well still love himself for completing that purpose. For a lot of people its plain sex, I'm sure you've seen that, but if you look at there good enough you'll find some that well give it all up for that truth, that purpose, you find them and you'll find a good place to find some true soldiers. Like those that die for family, which is were your ex f'd up. Family never ends, never, and for him or you to believe it can is what tears you apart now and well continue to. You need someone who can help pick up were he left off, just because those kids are older now, doesn't limit how important there parents are in there lives. Now the real worlds fixing to have its way with them and they need you and some one strong to help them deal with the bs society is putting on us. I can tell you if you don't get someone who understands that at the very least, your going to be in a relationship that hurts you and your kids....no matter how old they are, family is purpose, nothing is more important then that, everything else is ether there to help that or hurt it.. remeber that as your looking for people to trust... also if you don't realize this truth then your living a selfish lifestyle so all your going to find is selfish guys to help you with that....