Do you follow the parents wishes and not bring a gift, or do you bring a gift anyway? This is a 9 year old kid. I've heard of the no-gift thing with adult parties, but never for kids. I just wondered what others would do in this situation.
2007-04-09 07:19:59 · 61 answers · asked by kat 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wouldn't bring a gift because they probably said that for a reason. I would just bring a card for the child but no gift.
2007-04-09 07:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by skye_lashay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT bring a gift because they obviously have a reason behind that. It would also be really embarrassing to show up with one and see that no one else did. If you really want to play it safe, buy a gift (keep the receipt) , wrap it and leave it in the car. If you see everyone else brought a gift, run out to the car and get it (if you feel weird about not having one). If everyone did follow the 'rules' and didn't bring a gift, then return the gift to the store the next day or give to some other kid at another time.
2007-04-09 07:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have this buring desire and are a complete controlling person that the urge is just killing you to get the birthday kid a gift? Probably not! It's obviously your curiosity that's getting to you.
The party itself may be something rather grand for the kid so the parents just want all to have a good time. Or maybe "Johnny" was only allowed to invite 10 kids but he wanted the whole class of 30 and this was the trade off? Respect the parents' wishes cuz you'd be livid if people didn't respect yours. Just call the parents and cure your curiousity about this decision.
Cheers!
2007-04-09 10:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by gurlie7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome deal. Typically, birthday parties pseudo-obligate you to provide gifts. Simply put, I feel that if the parents are indignant about nobody bringing a gift, then I wouldn't. (There must be a reason behind it!)
To be on the nice side, if the party is being held at a playground or at their home, I would bring a side dish or some extra juice and chips. Offer to bring a CD with music the kids and parents might like.
2007-04-09 07:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you people saying to bring a gift anyway? DO NOT bring a gift. Can they be any more CLEAR? I think you would more likely piss off the parents if you did.
Also, just because they asked people not to bring gifts doesn't mean he didn't get anything for his birthday. They probably didn't want to bother people with needless crap and wanted their kid to have a party with his friends.
2007-04-09 07:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Princepessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That phrase was certainly added to the invitation deliberately. Perhaps the parents are trying to teach the child a lesson in not being materialistic, or he or she is in trouble, as some others have suggested. Honor the parents' wishes and send your child without a gift. Material gifts aren't necessary to have a wonderful time. Even for nine-year-olds, it needn't be all about "the stuff."
For your child to be the only one to bring a gift would embarrass all the children who followed instructions and didn't bring gifts, the parents giving the party, and your child.
2007-04-09 07:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess no gifts means - no gifts. I would feel guilty not bringing a gift but, you should respect the parent's wishes. Maybe your child could at least make the birthday child a card...that would be nice and I wouldn't think that would be going against the rules. Good luck!
2007-04-09 07:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned, talk to the parents. Perhaps there is a reason why it's a "no gift" party.
Then, talk to other parents whose children are attending. You could get a gift or gift card to keep just in case.
But, it sounds like the child is allowed to have friends over, but maybe the no gifts is a way of having fun without a lot of presents. Maybe the parents are giving a "big gift" and the party is just for fun???
2007-04-09 07:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a gift, Something that your kid would like. Wrap and bring it to the party but leave it in the trunk. If at anytime during the party people do start giving gifts then you should go get yours out of the car. I think it's bull that would say no gifts for a kid. If they don't give gifts then give the toy to your child or return it the next day. Also don't seal the card I doubt it but maybe they want a few money for the kid instead of gifts so that they can buy him or her something expensive like a new console. Either way be prepared.
2007-04-09 07:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica V 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't bring a gift. Obviously the parents don't want the other kids to bring a gift, so why should you? They could've gotten their 9 year old a worthwhile gift already and feel he/she doesn't need anymore. Don't compromise another parent's wish. It would be disrespectful if you went against their wishes.
2007-04-09 09:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋