Okay guys... whats the truth about dating a single mom? I am separating from my husband and eventually will look to date again. How do guys these days really feel about dating someone with young kids? I also had my tubes tied and connot have more babies. Are there men out there that would date a woman and accept her kids and the fact that she cant have more?
2007-04-09 07:11:07 · 16 answers · asked by My two cents 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes. There are many men out there who would embrace kids and try (not to be there dad) to show them and teach them good things. You also have to think that there are men who also cant have kids as well and would take yours under their wing.
2007-04-09 07:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mom w/ 3 small kids and thought that after all the great single women w/ no kids got married and the all the great single moms w/ 1 kid got married and then all the great single moms w/ 2 kids got married......all the good men would be gone.
Well, of all my women friends, I was the first to get married. I married a wonderful man that was 6 yrs younger than myself. On our wedding day when told you may kiss your bride....this was the first time in his life that he kissed a woman. I am his only girlfriend ever.....Oh, did I mention that he is a hunk and handsome.
I wanted more kids but had had my tubes tied after my 3rd was born. My husband kept saying no to trying to reverse it because he had plans for our 3 kids that he did not want to compromise on by having more kids. Well, after 4 yrs of marriage to this wonderful man, he finally said that if this is what I needed, I could have the surgery. But he made me promise that we would not do anything other than the surgery to have more kids. Well that was 5 yrs ago. We have been married 9.5 yrs and have 6 children (21, 18, 16, 4.5 and 2 yr old twins). My husband is 33 yrs old and the most wonderful husband in the world.
I am not special and I know that there is hope for you also.
2007-04-09 07:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ronnie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was a single mother, I didn't bring my dates home to meet my son. It was real important to me that I didn't introduce him to anyone that wasn't going to stick around. I waited until I was in an actual relationship with the guy until I let him meet my son. The way I saw it, allowing him to be a part of my son's life was one of the biggest privileges I could bestow on someone, so that privilege was saved for only a special person.
I was always very honest about my son and told any guy that I dated that they will not be meeting him anytime soon and that I wasn't out looking for a father for him - he already has one. A lot of men are under the misconception that single women are out on a "Daddy Hunt" for their children and that's not always the case.
The man I wound up marrying didn't meet my son until after about 6 months of serious dating. He expressed interest in him, and asked me if it would be OK if he got him a little something for Christmas. I was so touched because no one I had ever dated seemed to really express an interest in being part of my son's life and he did and it meant the world to me. I invited him to dinner at my parents (because I had moved back home) and my son and he met for the first time and he gave my son his Christmas present, which was a train set.
He and I were married 2 years ago today...my son who is now 11, lives with us, and we have a 2 yr. old son together as well.
So yes, there is hope. Just be patient...
2007-04-09 07:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a single mom and most guys just care about if the father is in your life still and if not most of the time there find with if.. and I have to say if u date don't bring the men around your kids til u know that its going somewhere..
2007-04-09 07:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just as many single moms as I know of guys with kids. Its not a big deal anymore. Just dont throw that on a guy on the first conversation. Let him get to like you first and then maybe the 3rd "meeting, phone call", mention the children
2007-04-09 07:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that is easy for me to answer since I have a relationship that is the same. If the man really cares for you and enjoys dating you, he will not see your situation as excess baggage. A real man will see what you have to offfer and will try his best to please you and your children.
If things get very serious and he wants a child of his own, there is always adoption. I have always thought single Moms are very sexy. Let me know how it goes ok? Good Luck.
2007-04-09 07:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by PJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me the guys around here prefer single moms. I am single have a great job and have no kids and they want nothing to do with me.
2007-04-09 07:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would be very cautious before dating someone with kids. But it would all depend on circumstance. Someday I would like a family of my own, so dating someone who couldn't have anymore childern probably wouldn't work.
2007-04-09 07:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some would. I think truthfully they are few and far between but there are guy's that are willing to be in that sort of relationship. Just got to make sure you don't get a dood that is a total piece to the child.
2007-04-09 07:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Wes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Many men do not want to have more children - that is a plus to many!
Get out there - look attractive
Be honest with your situation - you will be fine!
What is your number?
2007-04-09 07:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Slim Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋