I met this guy (he's not my boyfriend...think almost friends with benifits, im not looking for attachment) and we went out for drinks at a local bar to just hang out and talk. His roommate shows up because we were all going to go out together later that night. His roommate was really sweet to me the whole night, he bought my drinks for me and opened the doors for me being a complete gentleman. I really started to kinda like the guy but was respectful and kept my mindset on who i was actually on the date with. when my date went to the bathroom, me and the roommate ended up kissing and eventually we got caught. The guy i was on the date with said he really wasnt all that mad because he's not my boyfriend but if i want to continue to see him at all i cannot have any contact w/ his roommate but at the end of the night his roommate gave me his number under the table saying he wanted to get to know me more. if im interested in his roommate more than him, do i call his roommate or let it go?
2007-04-09 07:10:42 · 14 answers · asked by invictusaflak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say play them both for all their worth. If the date doesn't know how to treat a girl in public that's definitely not something that you want. The roommate is probably more what you're looking for, but I'm sure he's got a nice collection of STDs. Who knows! I personally would take the HOT roommate!!
2007-04-09 18:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by acyissej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go out with the roommate call him - but understand that the friendship with the other guy is going to end. It all depends on if you think the friendship is worth saving - or if you'd like a fling with the roommate. It does not sound like you want anything long term - but friends can last forever while a bf rarely does. Make sure you think about the whole picture before you make any decision.
2007-04-09 07:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suggest, I believe it's called, a menage a trois? This will make your date resent you and want nothing to do with you. He will then go to his roommate and mention this to him. He will then console his roommate while at the same time being intrigued by the unusual invitation. A week later a call is strategically placed while the roommate is known to be alone. After the initial awkwardness is broken you suggest that you should get together for a drink.
2007-04-09 07:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you genuinely like the roomate and think it could lead to more thanwhat you have with the current guy you should go for it. Be honest with the guy your seeing, its a difficult situation so everything needs to be out in the open. It sounds like he wouldn't mind too much as doesn't really sound like you guys are that into each other anyway.
I wouldn't call his roomate, as they is technically going behind the current guys back. So if me i would talk to your guy and tell him the situation and be honest that you like his mate. he probably won't be over the moon about it but will respect you totally for being honest. You should talk to him about if he is happy if you contact his mate etc. Hopefully he should be cool. Hope everything goes well, good luck. x
2007-04-09 07:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN NOT get in between friendship. That is not an option. If you dont like the date, you cant hook up with his roommate. Find another room of boys to knock on!!!
2007-04-09 07:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly like the other person better, it's a good idea to break the relationship with the 1st guy and hope that the other guy likes you too. Some guys (Myself included) would have a problem taking his friends left overs.
2007-04-09 07:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to not have a problem with it. So go for it with the roommate. But you said you don't want attachment.
2007-04-09 07:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want to do. If it was me I would stop messing around with the other guy for a few weeks. Then hook up with the roomate.
Hope I helped and Good Luck!
2007-04-09 07:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by smart blonde is not an oxymoron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the roomate!! YAY, it sounds like he is a really sweet guy, you can't help who you like.. tell the guy you were seeing your not trying to hurt him you just want to keep your options open and date around. I am sure he will understand!
2007-04-09 07:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Irishbeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the roommate and tell your friend that you guys are still friends then tell him that u like his roomate better(i've been in this mess b4 trust me)
2007-04-09 07:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by junior mafia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋