Okay. So, lets say you know a guy or girl and have really strong feelings for them. He or she has those same feelings. However, you 2 can't be together. With this in mind, and wanting to keep him or herself from getting the feelings he or she already has, he or she leaves you. (For whatever period of time). You 2 reconnect,and those feelings come rushing back-I mean RUSHING back! Only for you to find out that this special someone got together with another guy or girl.
Now keep in mind that this is a completely metaphorical. So this relationship could've been going for, lets say, 3 months minimum, 2 years maximum? They could be engaged, casually dating, it could be 1-sided, nothing but physical, whatever.
After being with you for, (whatever amount of time, and as a frined), this special someone breaks up with his or her boyfriend, girlfriend, or fiance. even tho you 2 still can't be together. How would you feel if this happened to you? how would you react to the shock, and after?
2007-04-09 07:08:39 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
METAPHORICAL!!! What part this word do you people not get?!? This, is not about me, in a bad situation. This, is metaphorical. As in, "It's not real". As in, I'm curious to know how you would feel, if someone you cared for, but couldn't be with, for whatever reasons, dump his or her, girlfriend or boyfirend- or even fiance, because they cared for you, more then the person they were with. Now you morons understand!?
And another thing, I asked for serious answers. Not half-wited ones!
2007-04-09 08:20:32 · update #1
Oh, and I mean no offense to the, few, people, whom answered this question the, 'right way'. If you will. I greatly appreciate.
2007-04-09 08:26:59 · update #2
's a' (whatever that means...) You have also over looked the metaphorical par to my question. But I like you answer. Now, if it was first-person, 'N' went with the metaphorical part of my question, I would love.
You gave advice, that I did not, and do not need need.
2007-04-09 15:02:54 · update #3
I'd be happy if he broke with his girl. It's: "If I can't have you, so can't she!". When there's a will, there's a way. If it happens that I'm in this situation one day, I'll try to break down the walls which is preventing this love from growing.
Now, if I'm the fiancee with whom the guy broke, I'll get on with my life, why crying for him when I know that he loves someone else although he can't be with her. I'll try to help them get together, at least I know I've done something good in life. After helping them, I'll go hunting for my "Ideal One". There are plenty of guys in this world who are single, among them, there might be one for me, who knows?
2007-04-17 06:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, either I would arrange that of "not being possible to be together, or both get far away from each other (more than physically I mean psychologically) and understand that if something is not possible, then is childish to stay suffering for it.
I would also ask him/her in what way he/she broke with the other person. If he/she was sincere, soft, comprehensive, or just broke with whatever stupid excuse. If she/he did the last, then I would take him/her from the ears and get her/him back to the other person to do things right, humanly, with an open end truth full heart.
2007-04-09 07:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Migs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a loaded question. I think that the person who is "in Love" should stand back and look at it as a soap opera, sts. Every one involved should just take a breather and let this "situation" sit. Why, you ask? Everything comes into perspective after a while. Decisions shouldn't be made too quickly. However, look at it in the Moral and ethical sense. If The ethics dint bother you after a waiting period, you should follow your feelings aka-Heart
2007-04-09 07:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by CulinaryCad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you mention more than once that "you two can't be together" then I probably wouldn't have strong feelings either way. If I cannot be with that person, then I'd hope they would have a happy life regardless...if they were with someone else and broke up, I'd try to be a friend to them if they needed one during that time...that's what friends are for.
If there's no chance of me being with that person, then I've no stock in whether or not they are dating someone else...that can't be allowed to affect me...I would just try to keep being their friend, as with any of my other friends that may be going through relationship ups and downs.
Letting it affect me any more deeply, would be foolish...
2007-04-09 07:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things weren't meant to be, no matter how much you want them to.
If we were both not seeing anyone, I would try to be with the person I wanted but if it just wasn't going to happen, I would accept reality and move on.
You can't hold onto the past, it's not going to hold onto you. (not you specifically, you in general since this is a metaphorical question)
2007-04-09 07:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair, but broke it off, and moved away. Three years latter I came back, and saw him again on the street. The feelings hit me like a brick wall. I could hardly breathe let alone speak to him. I love my husband, but he is sick and has terrible depression, so we hardly ever have sex. I think about this other guy, (who is married, too) and I just have fantasies! I want to be good, the affair hurt too much, but knowing he's around hurts too. So, I guess I'm not one to ask for help. Sorry
2007-04-09 07:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have made a simple question tougher, try to make the questions simple (this is for your good and not related to question you have asked)
Well, regarding your question, I'd say, both of you should not close your mind and talk to remove the hurdles in your union if you two like ecah other so much.
If, you both really think that you can't unite ever in life then be friends till you are sure of your feelings and circumstances. At least both of you can say for sure that yes, this friend of mine is my true friend and I can discuss all my problems with him/her.
Don't stop the other one from commiting him/herself elsewhere as this will create tension in your relationship. True relationships are very rare in this world, nurture it and protect it - both of you can still reap the benefits.
Good luck.
2007-04-09 07:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by sanjay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, the shock would be overwealming. I think I would react a bit to the shock, errr badly. I would probably cry for about a week, gain about 5 pounds, and then I think I would make myself let go. I would have to make myself move forward, and get the love I deserve.
2007-04-09 07:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by addybme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be completely straightforward it relies upon. If i in my opinion like the guy that i'm dating then I in all probability does not say something. i does not see a reason to make him jealous or harm the dating in any way. If there replaced into any charm I in all probability might say something to be certain if the guy might initiate attempting extra durable or if perhaps we could continually only bypass our separate procedures. And the 2nd element of your question, i might tell him maximum in all probability to his face yet not whilst out on a date. it might make the date awkward. And have confidence me dates in specific circumstances are and you do not would desire to cause them to worse because of the fact of asserting something like that.
2016-10-28 06:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by munley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know give me a second...
Okay, why can't these two be together? If they can't be together as in it's physically impossible then just stay friends. Are you sure this is metaphorical?
Otherwise, if its like their parents don't like you then just go out anyway. It's not their life it's yours.
2007-04-09 07:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋