I have been dating a guy for about 7 months now, about 3 months ago we hit a rough patch, he had a real problem with me talking to an ex of mine from about 4 years ago, I tried to convince my guy that we were only friends but he wouldn't budge. We wound up taking a breather for about 2 weeks but continued to talk and work on things. Just when I thought things were going really well it came to my attention that he had started seeing someone else during this time and basically hid it from me. When I confronted him about it he said that he wasn't sorry because I hurt him by talking to my ex. HE claims to have completely cut this woman off now that we are completely back together but I know for a fact that they are still talking. What do I do?
2007-04-09 07:05:26 · 6 answers · asked by msmarin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to say but it's your fault.
You are fooling yourself if you really think your ex just was trying to be your friend. Your boyfriend knows what was going on, your ex knew what was going on, you were the only clueless one.
You were wrong to want a friendship with your ex while you had a boyfriend. Your boyfriend had the right to start seeing someone else while you were on a "breather", if you didn't want that to happen then you shouldn't have taken a "breather". He was right in not telling you about it since you two were on a "breather". If he claims he has cut her off, then it's your job to believe him or end the relationship.
Next time don't take a "breather", and don't be having friendships with guys (especially ex-boyfriends).
2007-04-09 07:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it all come down to trust. Do you trust him? Does he trust you? If the answer to either question is no, then its time to move on. Trust is the basis of a good relationship and without it you have nothing. I do think you can be friends with an ex, but if you still have feelings for this person, it will show. Have a serious chat with your guy, if you can't work it out, then its time to stop wasting your time and his.
2007-04-09 14:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rosey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing to do, and that is give him the flick. If you are going to be married there has to be trust, because you have to work as a team. If there is no trust there, then what's the point.
2007-04-09 14:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by malroymck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him. first off he has no right to tell you who you can and cannot be friends with. then he hides a relationship he had with another girl and when you were upset he tried to put the blame on you! and now he's lying about having contact with this girl. it sounds like he has some issues
2007-04-09 14:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by JM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants his cake and eat it to...i think u should get out before you get hurt..2 wrongs dont make it right but me personally I would continue to speak with my ex from 4 years ago...you arent married to this man so you owe him nothing
2007-04-09 14:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone causes drama in your life, delete them and move on. You hurt him. He hurts you. It can go on and on. You want that?
2007-04-09 14:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋