ive been dating a girl for a while and i really love her and i thought she loved me untill today. i asked her whats on her mind and she said her best friend (a guy) asked her out. i was taken aback and asked her what her answer was. she made it very clear to me that she didnt love him and just wanted to be friends. later she was a bit off so i asked her whats wrong she said that she feels really sorry for her friend. i asked her if she loved me she said yes. i asked her if she still wanted to go out with me. she said she wasnt sure. i was really taken aback. she acted on the rest of our date like nothing had happened and as you can imagine i was really sad. i think she is letting me down gently. but weve been thrugh a lot because her ex gave her a lot of trouble recently and we got through it. she has been a bit depressed recently because there is a few guys that have asked made passes and i puttheminthereplace.she said well get through this but wat do u think is she still intrested???
2007-04-09 07:01:48 · 13 answers · asked by ciaran e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she told me she would be online on msn tonight to talk more about it she isnt on. is this a way of saying im not intrested or do you think theres a genuin answer for her behaviour
2007-04-09 07:55:06 · update #1
you gotta fight for this girl mate and show her reasons that being with you is the better than being with him.she is suffering from mixed emotions.
2007-04-09 07:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by johnboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be interested but you have given her no indication that there is a future with you other than more dates. If you have been going out with her for awhile and really love her, then ask yourself if she is the one for you or not. If she isn't, stop being so upset when she looks at other guys as options, If she is, the old saying is get off the pot and make a commitment.
2007-04-09 07:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she does care for you, but is perhaps confused. If she's been through stuff w/an ex recently, that has probably added to her confusion. Let her know how you feel, rather than ask her how she's feeling. Let her know you're now as confused as her and the fact that she's not sure about dating you has really saddened you. See where the conversation goes from there...
2007-04-09 07:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by lma0814 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she has an absolute right to want you or not/want/you, and she doesn't need to explain her reasons. Women do not feel comfortable with a jealous man. They worry that he is going to do something stupid if she decides she does not want him. Let her date whoever she wishes. Don't think anger. Don't think violence. Let her run. Be cheerful, upbeat and funny around her. If you have anger, get it under control. You are not alone. There must be many thousands of us who had to let go of somebody we wanted. In my case, I'll probably die still a little resentful someday. But I still think the right advice is LET HER DO AS SHE WISHES. Enough said.
2007-04-09 07:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by SaturnMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a complicated matter and no person in this world will fully comprehend it. You should sit and talk to her ask her directly if she still loves you ask her to please tell you what it is that is bothering her. If she says that she needs time to put her thougths together be comprehensive and give her that time. i understand that if this happens you might get hurt but if you really love her this is the best you can do for know; be patient and time will soon clear everything. Trust in God.
2007-04-09 07:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her keep fighting for her, only walk away if she tells you directly that she doesn't want to see you. If that happens just bite the bullet, be a man, and hold your head high for being brave enough for putting your heart on the line. Then chalk it up to experience and move on as best you can.
Don't forget, women can be very fickle creatures...
2007-04-09 07:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she use to love that friend before u came along but may be the friend was afriad to tell her at the time how he feel about her and then u come along and he final decides to tell her i think u should not let her go fight for what u want i think she is still intrested else she wouldnt tell u so hang on to her
2007-04-09 07:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by sexy lotoya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is her best friend then that is what makes him more attractive because he doesn't come with any issues... The best thing to do is to not be so in her face about it... Be her BETTER best friend... trust me, she has more behind you and her than her and him, she just needs to know that she already has what he has to offer so why take the chance... Think outside the box... Be the best friend boyfriend, be fair and honest.
2007-04-12 19:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Crazily In Love Guy... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on her, it seems that the ball is in her court. there isn't really to much you can do, but watch what ever happen. it sucks i know but, if you push her or talk about it to much she may feel pressured and make a hasty choice. Being a girl myself, i would just want to be left alone so i can make up my mind on my own, without anyone telling me how to feel or think.
2007-04-09 07:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by tink7723 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awwww poor thing....hopefully she is'nt letting you go but she may be deloping feelings for her friend even if she denys it im sure she is still intersted in you she probably just needs a break to realize it :d
2007-04-09 07:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by TeraToxic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋