My family DOES NOT approve....?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for two months now. I have been best friends with him for a year. He is Mexican and I am a white, American girl. He speaks Spanish, I speak both Spanish and English. My family however doesn't, and therefore they disapprove. They do not even know him, yet do not like him because he doesn't speak English. He also has a child from when he was in his late teens, and they do not like that either. Yes, I know that is a very difficult situation, but that doesn't change the way I love him. The reasons that they do not like him are very superficial. He loves me and I love him. He treats me well and I don't understand how they can be so hateful towards me about this. I know they love me, but they told me that I have made a "piss poor" choice and that I will be ruining my life if I decide to continue with him. They told me I should just "drop" him and move on. They said I am being selfish, I might as well just be on drugs and they will never approve.

They have also said that they feel they didn't raise me right because how could I possibly be in "love" with this guy. They act as though he has no feelings or heart and they make derogatory comments about his culture and that tears me up inside. I love my family very much, but he is too important for me for me to just forget about him. I can't, I am in love with him and I need him, he makes me happy, yet they don't care. They think I will ruin my life if I stay with him based on the fact he does have a child and doesn't have a college education. They make me feel very guilty for loving him. He doesn't know how they feel, I don't want to hurt him . Should I tell him? Also, what are y'alls opinion on this situation. I am 20, he's 25. I would really appreciate an unbiased opinion, thank you so much for any help, God bless. :)

Answer 1

Frist off what your parents are trying to do, and doing a piss poor job themselves of doing it, is to make you see that love isn't everything, not even close. Shoot I wish we lived in a disney world were true love is just saying you love someone, but reality check. True love has nothing to do with the love part, we can love mean things trees, bombs, and people, but that doesn't gaurentee that one day that tree won't fall on us, that bomb won't blow up on us, and that people won't hurt us. Ether way your dealing with a guy who already has a kid, that he isn't taking care of, he is in a country were he hasn't even spent the time to learn the laugange, and finally he is dating someone who is so much younger then him, which means that he has his own insecurities to deal with. Ether way they love you and don't want to see you sell yourself short. And I'm all for young love but this honestly looks like a classic case of he loves me and thats all that matters! Which is ignorant I'm sorry, go ahead learn that lesson, but for those that have been down such paths, I wish you'd listen to advice...