She's fantastic, beautiful, succesful, has her own business and home but wants me to convert to Islam before we get married.
2007-04-09 06:33:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NO NO NO. Faith is a matter of your heart and soul. If it's not for you, don't do it. If it's going to be a problem for her or for raising the kids, I'd reconsider the marriage. No matter how wonderful she is.
2007-04-09 08:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by rucirius 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that only you can decide. I would attend a local mosque and ask questions and see if it is something that you would be interested in doing. I was Christian and married a Muslim. I didn't come from strong religious roots and he is not a very religious man either so religion has never been a big issue with us. When you have kids you have to decide what faith you want to raise them which can cause conflict if you aren't converted. A Muslim can marry a Christian without converting, it is not against their religion. Being my extended family is Christian we still celebrate all the Christian holidays and we also celebrate islamic holidays. I do attend mosque, but usually only for eid. The biggest things about switching to islam from christianity is you need to have to change your name to a muslim name, otherwise I found the two religions to be very similar in a lot of areas. You didn't state what religion you were so I am assuming you are Christian. Best of luck!
2007-04-09 13:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is one easy answer to this question and that is no. You should not change any religion just to please someone. Whether it be from moron to catholic or Buddhism to Islamic. She fell in love with you not your religion and vice versa you with her not her religion. You both fell in love with the people you are today. Yes little things have changed you don’t leave the toilet seat down any more , she knows not to bother you while football is on, little things, but the ideals and principles you had when you met are still the same and that’s one of the reasons why you two chose each other out of everyone else in the world.
Her asking you to change religions is like you asking her to be a democrat instead of a republican. A: You just can’t do that, what you believe is what you believe. B: it is not right to ask someone to change. If someone needs to change they have to realize they need to change and they have to want it bad enough. In the end the only person that can change them is them. To change should be for the better never for the worse and when made for the right reasons it is for the better. If you change your religion it should be because you want to, because you believe in the religion and you feel its the right thing to do, not because of her not because of anything I say and not because of anyone or anything else but because its what you want.
Religion is a precise thing not to be thrown out and changed when ever you want like clothes or a car. Religion is like a reflection of your beliefs, ideals and principles. When you say you are this or that religion people think about what they know about that religion so they can have some sort of idea about what you are like. So as I said before if you change make it for the right reason.
Now if your fiancé really loves you and you her then she will understand and love you all the more. Good luck.
2007-04-09 14:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by fourtonetommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the things you listed about your fiancee have nothing to do with whether or not you should convert to Islam. This is a personal decision you have to make. Do research about the religion, what is involved in converting, examine your own heart and soul to see if it's what you really want, and pray about it to come to a wise answer.
2007-04-12 15:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not convert. Her marrying you as you are and her marrying you as a FORCED convert to islam is the same thing. If she is going to make you do it, then its not because you believe in it so it's almost insulting to that religion. I don't want anyone who doesn't believe in Catholisim converting just because someone MADE them do it....I want to know that when I go to church, I am surrounded by people who believe the same thing I do, not a guy who's fiancee made him convert for the purpose of marriage.
2007-04-09 13:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you convert to Islam because SHE wants you to, I don't think it's a good idea. If she doesn't want to marry you with your own belief system intact than she wants to mold you into something your not... this is especially bad because your beliefs are the core of who you are!
Would you ask her to change the way she feels about something strickly to make you happy?
Even if you converted to Islam it would be all a crock if Islam was not something that you agree with. I don;t believe you should want that, and I don't believe any religion would want you to convert based on making someone else happy.
2007-04-09 13:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by trollunderthestairs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think anyone should require another person to change religions for any reason, let alone marriage. I wouldn't entertain the idea of marrying someone who asks. If he/she would make that a condition of marriage obviously something's not "quite" right. And what'll be next? Marriage is compromise. If a person is not open to the idea that maybe he/she wouldn't get their way and the marriage could still be strong well, I think you should move on.
Good luck! and remember "if it seems too good to be true, it usually is"
2007-04-09 13:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is something only you can answer...do you really love her? Could you think of life without her? If you can answer those questions on your own, then you already have the answer to your question. Don't base your marriage around the fact that she is successful and has her own business (this could change in a heart beat).
2007-04-09 14:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, because u r not being true to yourself. islam is more than a religion it is a way of life. to convert to islam is not like converting to Catholicism where u go to church once a week and thats it.
i don't know much about that religion but i know it takes up most of your day. i believe u wake up at 5am to pray. u need to really believe in it. u can't just convert because she wants u too.
2007-04-09 13:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
slow up partner how long have you been dating? If she's muslim from a traditional family then it's expected that the outsider converts, but she can't make you convert it's something you want to do.
2007-04-09 14:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋