I am getting married this June. My fiance and I have registered at few places for our bridal registry but we both REALLY prefer cash gifts. How do I let guests know this properly/with etiquette? thanks!
2007-04-09 05:49:19 · 22 answers · asked by Princess K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There just plain isn't a polite, socially acceptable way to do this.
You should not be throwing a wedding to turn a profit. Either you want to share this day with your friends and family and aren't worried about what they give you in return, or else you cancel the festivities and sock away your own money instead of crassly expecting others to compensate you for your wedding expenses.
2007-04-09 05:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you already registered most people will go off that. If you would like cash you can have a relative spread the word.. someone you know that will keep it low key and be tasteful about it. Please do not put anywhere on your invites that you want cash. There are going to be people that dont have a lot of cash and would prefer to buy a nice small gift.
My advice: since you already registered, leave it at that but have a money dance instead. We got $400 for our money dance and we only had 60 people at our wedding.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-09 06:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know there is a way but i haven't been able to figure it out yet. My sister attended an indian wedding where the couple really didn't need/want any gifts, and they had an insert with the invitation worded beautifully explaining that no gifts are neccessary but if you wish to give something money would be acceptable. Unfortunately my sister threw it out and can't remember for the life of her how the phrasing went.
The important thing is it CAN be done tactfully. You just need to find a nice way. And in reality, if you don't need anything, it's better for guests to know you will accept cash than to have them waste their time shopping for things you don't really need and may have to return anyway.
2007-04-09 06:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Obviously you don't include this directly on the invitation. From what I've seen recommended in advice columns, if it is cash gifts desired, you let the guests know when they call to inquire about gifts. But in the end, remember that it is the guests' choice what to give you.
2007-04-09 05:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow so many people ask this question on here. It is good you registered for gifts. Register for MORE gifts at more stores.
In shower or wedding invitations include a piece of paper with directions to your reception/ party, the stores you are registered at, AND on the bottom put something like "monetary gifts welcomed /or prefered /or greatly welcomed"
Many people buy actual gifts for a wedding shower and give CASH gifts at the wedding.
Make sure you register for MANY gifts you need/ want because many people like to buy gifts and you dont want to end up with something you dont want. So people need options.
2007-04-09 10:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The most proper way is to tell your parents and then have them spread the word that you're saving for (house, car, etc?). When you do recieve the cash, don't forget the thank you card...say something along the lines of thank you for helping us with (the gift purchased)...don't enter money amount, but make sure to mention what you used the money for (if it was for a big purchase, especially).
2007-04-09 07:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people think its tacky to ask for money, or to ask guests for anything. I think thats silly b/c if thats the case, what is the point in registering for gifts. Don't listen to ppl who call you tacky or crass b/c they are typically one sided. Isn't registering for gifts the same thing as making a specific request?
It is extremely important to think about who you are inviting. If you are inviting family and friends who love you, then it won't matter, but if you are inviting your best friend from high school, whom you haven't talked to in 5 years she may be offended. I have a friend getting married in August and she said they were having a money tree because they are immediately moving to NY following the wedding, (they currently live in TN). There are some situations where ppl don't need stuff it just creates junk that you have to take back or won't use. I just say don't register for gifts and ppl will more than likely bring you money. Word of mouth is great.
2007-04-09 06:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by kapy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's considered rude to tell wedding guests to give cash instead of gifts, so I don't think there's a delicate way to phrase it. But I think if you say you would rather have money towards saving for a house or for the honeymoon or what have you, you can put in a note saying cash is appreciated. Or else ask a relative to spread the word that you would rather have cash gifts instead.
2007-04-09 05:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just let the information spread by word of mouth. Please don't put the information in your wedding invitations, as it's really rude and not proper ettiquette at all. But rest assured that the vast majority of folks will bring cash or checks anyway; only a handful will bring physical gifts to the wedding.
2007-04-09 05:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT WRITE ON ANYTHING THAT CASH GIFTS ARE REQUESTED! BIG NO NO!
Do not register anywhere. Inform your parents/friends that you really don't need any gifts, but would appreciate some help with a honeymoon fund or a homeowner's fund.
Something along those lines.
And in my opinion, you shouldn't expect gifts at all.
2007-04-09 05:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋