Hello everybody, something is weighing heavily on my mind and I need your ideas/thoughts. I am a Christian and I got saved in 1996, but before I got saved I disobeyed my parents at the age of 16 and the result of that disobedience was a pregnancy that I tried to hide from everybody. I didn't know what to do and where I am from, it is like a taboo to have a child out of wedlock and so 6 months into the pregnancy, I was found out and my step mother took me to a doctor who said he could get me to physically give birth and I said yes and my labor was induced and after almost 8 hours the fetus was born. I've prayed to God since then to forgive me and I know He has but I can't help feeling that He is still angry with me. I am now a married woman and I have been trying for over 4 and a half years to concieve but I can't. All the doctors me and my husband have seen in the US all say I am okay and he is okay. Am I right in thinking that maybe God has not forgiven me?
2007-04-09 05:46:31 · 19 answers · asked by mattiewinrow 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dear Sister in Christ, you are forgiven and washed clean. It is not God who now torments you, but Satan using your own sense of guilt as a bludgeon against you. Let it go, hard as that may seem to do. Pray to the Lord to take it from you. I don't know if it is the Lord's will for you to conceive and give birth, though I will pray for you to. Perhaps He is saving you for some other child, born to another, who desperately needs the love and understanding I think you will be able to give. This world is full of cast-off children in need of a mother's unconditional love. Maybe He will bring you to one of these. In either case, I think you are a brave young woman with much to offer, and you will make a fine mother. God bless you and keep you.
2007-04-09 12:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you accept Christ in your heart the Bible says in the book of " 2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Everthing that you have done before you rebelled has been erased, God has forgiven you and has released you from all guilt. Let me tell you something God never gets angry at anyone, He may get bother or displeased. Why would God forgive you and still be angry about the same situation, it doesn't even make sense. The Lord loves you and wants the best for you. Just because you are not conceiving doesn't mean that he's mad at you, it's just probably not His will for you to have a child. You are trying to have a child without consulting God, He is the one that gives life. At His time, not yours it will come to pass (if that's His will). Just focus on God and I promise you that God will give you the peace you need. God bless you sis, I will be praying for you. Make sure you read your Bible, it guides us during these times.
2007-04-09 06:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Canseco J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not how God works. Your sins are forgiven, end of story. What you are going through now is NOT a punishment. In some ways you will appreciate motherhood more than a lot of women. Over 4 years is a long time, but some couples wait longer. It doesn't mean you won't have a child, maybe God is trying to tell you to forgive yourself... at any rate if you can't conceive consider adoption, you seem ready to be a mother, either way I'll pray for you. God bless!
2007-04-09 05:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Scott B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what I am really not trying to be rude, but anyone who decided to force early delivery which may have hurt the child based on some sort of religious belief, has now told me that religion has gone to far. Was the child terminated at 6 months? Partial birth abortion. If so then you are saying because of a christian belief you, your step mother, and this doctor ended this child's life. The chains that religion puts upon people. No you are not being punished by God. Please get counseling and search for the truth. Clear your mind and heart. Do not ever let society or religion make your decisions for you, because only you live with the consequence, not them.
2007-04-09 05:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mattie;
God has forgiven you, that you do not need to concern yourself with.
What the Dr. did not tell you when you were 16 is that sometimes when they do things like induce premature labor, especially at only six months, sometimes they do damage to your body they only God can repair. Every time an abortion, in effect that is what was done, is performed it haunts the mother years later. This can effect your reproductive system on a psychological basis and your body responds to that.
Please remember this---God has forgiven, you need to learn to forgive yourself. Satan is the one that keeps that stuff in your mind, rebuke him and tell him to never bring it up again. It is under the blood of Jesus, and in the sea of forgetfulness, cast as far away as the East is from the West.
2007-04-09 06:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u asked God for forgiveness then He has forgiven you . If you still feel a little bit un sure then keep praying a and talk to God and get the guilt of your past off of your chest
2007-04-09 05:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has forgiven you, but you haven't forgiven yourself. You let Satan accuse you constantly. It is Satan accusing you and not the Lord. You need to deal with him. Tell Satan to get behind you that you follow Jesus and he has no place in your life. You have been forgiven and if he has any problems with your abortion take it to Jesus. God promises that He will put our sins as far from Him as the east is from the west. Forgive yourself and know that you are forgiven. Believe God and His Word. Tell Satan that he has no part in your life and to get away from you. Have faith, yes faith, that God has forgiven you. Without faith it is impossible to please God. Trust God and know that His Word is truth. Ask God to increase your faith. There is nothing wrong with saying, "I believe Lord but help my unbelief." A certain man in the Bible said this very same thing.
It is important to read the Word of God. Get in the Holy Bible and read it daily so your faith can be increased. So many young women carry this burden that you are carrying, but you all must trust God and believe His Word. Until you believe the Word of God and Trust God that His word is truth, you will carry this horrible burden. Believe God that what He has started in you that He is more than able to finish it. The Holy Spirit is making you righteous and holy like Jesus. He has washed your sins away by His blood. Accept His free gift of Salvation and His forgiveness of all sins.
I pray this will help.
2007-04-09 06:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is not angry at you for this and He is not punishing you for this.
My guess is it's partly the stress you're putting on yourself because of the guilt you feel. Give yourself a break and forgive yourself - you were very young and afraid. Think about how you'd treat a 16-year-old in the same situation. Would you be harsh and unforgiving with her? I'm guessing not. So be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, and let it go.
2007-04-09 05:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by milomax 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you've bought into a religion that views sexuality as shameful. To the point, you may have been mistaken as a teenager to engage in sexual relations, but if you had used contraception it's likely that you could have avoided this whole thing. Not to mention the family, who apparently treated you poorly and found your situation an opportunity to judge you, which seems kind of sad.
No medical condition is a punishment from a deity. Infertility is related to the production of eggs, hormones, the fallopian tubes, etc. Fertility also declines for everybody with age.
Stop using religion to hate yourself. You were a teenager, and everybody makes mistakes in those situations! In my opinion if a deity could not forgive you for being in an extremely vulnerable circumstance and unsupported by others, then what the heck is the point of believing in one?
2007-04-09 05:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Dalarus 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is sad to hear you had to go through all that on your own. Only you can get over this in whatever way you feel is right. At 16 you were too young to know what was good for you and I doubt that you god would blame you for that.
2007-04-09 05:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by the_emrod 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋