isn't it my decision?

Question

Why is it, when I tell people I'm going to find out the sex of my baby, that some people have the nerve to actually get upset with me and say things like "oh! how could you??" Why do other people care so much about something that is COMPLETELY none of their business, and how would you react to something like that??

Answer 1

They want you to be surprised?

It's none of their business. And don't feel bad about telling them so. ;o) I think pregnant women get enough grief and unwanted advice as it is - they certainly don't need people's opinions about whether to find out the sex of the baby or not.

Everyone has an opinion about everything - and for some reason when they see a pregnant person all those opinions just tumble out of their mouths; "when I was pregnant, I did this, oh should you be eating that?, are you sure that's okay? shouldn't you do this?"

Who freakin cares!!! Did I ask for your advice?? Nope!!! :)

I would tell them that yes you are finding out what the sex of the baby is but your not going to tell them. Everyone else will know what you are having but them. See what they say to that!!

;) good luck to you and have some fun messing with people!!

Answer 2

It depends on if you are bringing the subject up yourself or if others are asking you. If you bring the subject up to people than you can expect them to express their opinion on the subject. If you have brought it up, then you have made it their business. If you don't want to discuss it than don't bring it up. Now, if someone asks you if you plan to find out the sex of the baby, politely say with a smile, "I'd rather not discuss that, thank-you." Then change the subject. You have no control over the opinions of other people and everyone has opinions, some way more than others! The decision is yours to make if you want to find out what the baby's sex is before birth. Some babies do not cooperate during the ultrasound and you won't know ahead of time, so be prepared for that, too. The decision also lies with you as to if you want to bring this up or discuss it with people.

Answer 3

this is exactly how I would react because this IS how I reacted to my brothers gf finding out the sex of their second child.

I said "you can know but I'd still like it to be a surpise so please don't tell me!"

her due date was yesterday and I still don't know the sex. Everytime one person says it's a girl, a day or two later I'll hear it's a boy. I'm hoping for a girl since I already have a nephew.

People make everything their business. It's just the way people are now. It's pathetic and I hate it! I'd really love to have 1 week of everyone staying out of my life!!

You obviously have your reasons for wanting to know the sex. rather it be just because you are too excited to wait, or you want to get the nursery set up. Either way you're the mother and it's your business!

I personally wouldn't want to know the sex because that'd be motivation to push. haha I know I won't need it but it'd make me want the baby out so much more and make the pain a little more tolerable.

Answer 4

Personally, I didn't want to know the gender of my baby before she was born. Other people do want to know.

No matter how you look at it though, it is a personal decision. Some people will be upset no matter what choice you make. You can't please everyone.

If your final decision works for you, then it was obviously the right decision. I used to just ignore the question when people asked me and change the subject to something else. Hope that helps a little.

Answer 5

I guess it depends on where you live--around here people are surprised when someone doesn't find out the sex of the baby--you need to get some clothes at the baby shower--if it is your second child, you don't need any strollers or cribs!

Some people have slight anti-science and medicine prejudices, and think you should preserve the surprise. It is up to you what you want to do. Try answering back, "how could I not find out--I need to have things ready for this child, I'm not going to have time to re-paint the nursrey and buy baby clothes after I have this child!"

Answer 6

Yes it is your decision. There are two problems here dealing with our society. One is that other people too many times try to tell you what is right or wrong(I thought that was the governments job. lol) by the way there is no law against this. Two, we as people in this society worry too much how other people think of our beliefs or actions. Just speaking the truth. Personally I think you should do what feels right to you and the other parent and not what someone in your family or one of your friends think. Congratulation by the way and good luck raising the little one.

Answer 7

I'm sorry people are reacting so badly to that! Most people ask us if we are going to find out and when we say yes they tell us they would want to know too. Either way it is a happy surprise whether you find out before the baby is born or when it is born. Besides this way you can prepare. Pick out the right name, shop for clothes, and paint the nursery.

Answer 8

I'm not sure why people care so much about weither you find out the sex of your baby or not. I personally asked what the sex of my baby was so that I could plan ahead. Its easier to buy clothes and decorate the nursery if you know what colors to go for!

Answer 9

Well of coarse its you decision. You cant control other peoples emotions or actions so just enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to finding out your child's sex. After your baby is born you wont remember what those people thought and who cares anyway? Good luck to you.

Answer 10

All of the decisions about your child are yours. However, if you share things with the word not everyone is an emotional rubber stamp some will disagree and some of them will state their disagreement. If you have the courage of your convictions their opinion which will often be overstated and unsolicited will not matter a whit. Of course, you have every right to smile sweetly after their tirade and say something like, "Everyone is entitled to an opinion."