Should I try this?
I had the worse situation of my life.. I met a guy that was exactly the man that i always prayed for and he was so into me.. but i messed it up because i was going through alot..
1)i was being abstiant for 3 years before we had sex and i never told him.. so the next time i tried i said no with no explaination... he still wanted to date me even after that..
2) then i was a total b-to him because at the time when i met him, my close aunt was battling a terminal illness..
finally about 6 weeks ago he told me he couldn't take anymore of my crap.. a couple weeks later i tried to text him to explain/apoligize.. no response... i decided to let it go, but yesterday my aunt suddenly passed during a surgury and i'm thinking about how short life is, and how i want to try to be with him..
I have a friend that knows his normal patterns, should I try to show up where he is by "accident" and try once and for all to explain
2007-04-09 03:37:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know for a fact that he doesn't have a girl or seeing somebody special right now.. he just is that through with me that he won't respond to my texts or calls :(.. i'm hoping face to face he can see i'm sincere?
2007-04-09 03:38:18 · update #1
Yes, you should.
2007-04-09 03:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by hoopshola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to show up by "accident," but not only should you prepare yourself for him to say he's just not interested, you also have the possibility that he'll ask why you're over where he is, and that might be a bit tricky to explain
I wanted to say though, you did the right thing saying no to him when it came to abstinence. That was a great choice,, it just didn't go how you had hoped. I hope what I'm about to say doesn't ruin this for you, but sometimes situations like what you're having almost prove to us if that person is right for us. HOw well can that person endure? Do they really love you? ect.
Anything is worth a shot though. You might want to write him a note though. SOmetimes written words portray better than spoken words. If you write it, no one can try tto look at your face expressions and body actions, because those also tell a lot.
Well, good luck, but I'm sure you don't need it. Have a FANTASTIC day.
2007-04-10 08:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand what you are going through for sure -- Try and give him a call and tell him that you have been thinking about it and he is right -- if you try and come up with an explanation it starts sounding like an excuse and a lot of people can't stand those -- ask him to go to dinner -- if he says no then say okay I understand -- and let it go -- he has feelings to and there maybe a point where he needs to protect himself.
2007-04-09 10:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have been so harsh. I understand your emotions can take over, but you shouldn't be taking your aunts terminal illness out on him. At this point you will have to talk to him in person to get him to listen. If you want to fix this you have to find him and explain in very well said words why you were so miserable. Hopefully if you didn't want to long he'll understand and you might be able to be friends.
2007-04-09 10:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by sg300c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the man of your dreams, you have to try everything you can to win his heart, because if you don't, you will regret it for the rest of your life. If he doesn't understand what you were going through, then maybe he wasn't the man of your dreams after all.
2007-04-09 10:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by rebeldaddy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't become the crazy stalker.. Write him a short note, tell him what you said here.. Then let him make the choice. Be prepared to let him go. and learn from your mistakes.
2007-04-09 10:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by say_tay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think you should..explain urself to him n if he dont believe you then just let it go....Let me tell you this...I am talking to this guy right now...n he has a gf n likes me n her....i feel like a 3rd wheel i cant let go of him either so i kno how u feel...
2007-04-09 10:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can "accidentally" shjow up where he is at, but I would be prepared to hear him say that he is no longer interested in you. You may have blown it and he is wanting to stay clear. Just be prepared tor that and be ready to move on and find someone new.
2007-04-09 10:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what u think is right dont try to go out of your way for him talk to him once and if he does not accept it then u dont need him!
2007-04-09 10:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by kassie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINETELY. oh my gosh, hes probably totally bummed out.
do it, you never know when its your last day and you gotta do all you can!!
2007-04-09 10:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by mary a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋