Whenever I hang out with my friends that are guys, a lot of them hit on me and I don't like it. Like they're put their arm around me, hold my hand, or put their hand on my leg. I don't know how to tell them to stop without being rude or making them feel bad. I like them as a friend, but that's all. My friend Zach always did that, and when he tried to kiss me, I pulled away and now we don't talk anymore since it's awkward now. So what can I do next time it happens?
2007-04-09 02:14:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you could simply say don't, but if you wanna try a different approach i have a suggestion or two.
you could tell them a story of a guy who came up to you and was hitting on you and how gross and disguisting it was and how you hate that, and hopefully they'll get the point.
or you could bring a male cousin or brother who'd get annoyed at the guys if they did that to you
or you could get a boyfriend who'd get pissed off haha
yeah or you could just say stop :)
2007-04-09 04:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by so_tired88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaha a hot french fry? where did that come from???
just be frank but polite. there's no need to make up lies to get away from them. why a lot of guys are hitting on you is that they're getting the wrong signal from you. maybe you're using the wrong body language or showing too much interest in what they have to say. when they try to put their arms around you again, just lift up a hand in between and say no, you're not comfortable with it.
if they still wont understand, they're just immature or too vain that their bruised ego is suddenly a big issue. You don't have to feel guilty for it. They risked being told off when they do things as they like in the first place.
2007-04-09 02:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awh shame hun! Maybe he isnt very good with girls [think, has he got many girls that are just mates?] he'll get confused between the line of being friendly playful and flirty. If he really is that thick and just thinks hes all that, why wouldnt u want him blah'd blah, next time hes just about to move in to touch your leg or put an arm around you, move out of the way subtly, like you've just seen something and your walking off, or your turning round to another mate. Goodluck
2016-05-20 23:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by marietta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , If you want friends that are guys and don't want them hitting on you. Let it be known from the very beginning . And a true friend will understand . Just tell them exactly how you feel . And its not true that all guys just want sex from a lady . But some do so you just have to weed those out .
2007-04-09 02:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by jay_rock74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FRIENDS would listen to what you have to say.They would not be offended by you telling them you felt awkward about unasked for touching no matter how innocent.You could always try something like "My ears aren't there" and if they don't get the point be more direct. Introduce them to MR. Knee and say" I needed you to stop" or a friendly slap on the face should they do it and say it is a voluntary reflex. Don't worry too much about their feelings, are they worried about yours? These are not friends, just walking testosterone.
2007-04-09 02:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to tell a guy to stop hitting on you, but by politely telling them. Just tell them, "please guys, I like you as friends, but I don't like when people put their arms or hands on me".
Man's ego will be hurt. If you are the only girl in the group, it will hurt them more. But if you don't say anything, they will continue to interpret your letting them put their arms and hands where they want as a sign that you like being touched or even more.
Another way to do it, is going ONE by ONE in private telling them that you like them as friends, but that you feel unconfortable by so much touching.
2007-04-09 02:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by David G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choose better friends darlin.
And do some thinking about what the term, "friend" means.
Guys as young as you are don't care to have girls as friends. Guys your age want sex. Their hormones are raging and they don't care about anything else but getting some from whoever they can. While you think they might care about you, they are making bets about which one of them can get in your pants first. While you call them friends they are masturbating while thinking of you, imagining you in all kinds of x-rated positions. And if you keep putting them off they'll start calling you a lesbian and if you date some other guy they'll start calling you a slut.
Get some gay guys, they make better friends than straight ones.
2007-04-09 02:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you must be attractive. They have the impression that you like playing like that. At some point you have to lay down the law and be clear that it's not fun. Or stop hanging around with them.
2007-04-09 02:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you don't appreciate the touching and that it makes you uncomfortable. Do it in a private setting, individually so that they aren't embarrassed in front of their friends. If they continue to disrespect you after your request, then perhaps it's time to find male friends who have more respect for women.
2007-04-09 02:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by rockin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell them that you don't feel that way about them and you just want to be friends. The thing is if they stop talking to you after that, they don't feel awkward. It's just that's what they were shooting for, sweetie.
2007-04-09 02:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by OneLove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋