I have a big problem. My girlfriend has feelings for my brother. I've always been the "provider" type guy... the one women claim to seek out for marriage material... AFTER they've had their fun with the "bad boys". Boo hoo for my girlfriend, she never really dated in high school so I'm her first boyfriend really. My brother is a little younger than me (I'm 21, he's 18, she's 20) and still looks like a punk/emo kid. He's always flirting and dating around plus he seems to have way more in common with my g/f than I do. Problem is I've been with this girl over a year. I practically live with her and I take care of her. She and I both know if she ever went out with my brother, it would end in heartache because he's a womanizer. But for some reason, she can't stop dreaming about him and wondering what it'd be like to be with him. Anyone else been in this situation? Oh btw, it's not just a little phase. She's felt this way about him from the moment she saw him.
2007-04-09 00:22:07 · 12 answers · asked by Jay M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think it's really sad that she's felt it necessary to share these fantasies with you. It's doesn't speak well of her capacity for consideration.
If she can't QUIETLY control her fantasies, I suspect you're all headed for heartache. She sounds like she needs to play the field a bit before she settles down, or she's likely to do it afterward, which is seriously hurtful and cruel.
Either she learns to get a grip, or you should probably cut her loose before she breaks your heart.
Sorry.
2007-04-09 00:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing the right thing i mean if your brother says he dosent have feelings for her he could be lieing but maybe hes just trying to get over it maybe hes trying to forget so he dosent want to see you to together i guess but that dosent mean he dosent want both of you to be happy like yes he could like her but he may know that you will give her or be their for him when he cant or that he justed needed a buddy an now hes done hill be ok i guess butw/e just keep on keepin on an good luck with all this :]
2016-04-01 04:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly loved you, she would not put you through this pain. Drop her. Let her date that jerk. She will soon be begging for your forgiveness. Tell her no, it is her loss. She just doesn't realize what she has in you. If she told anyone else that she had the hots for his brother, he would drop her like a hot potato. Find you a girl that will love you and appreciate you. Your deserve better than her.
2007-04-09 00:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello sir
It appears your girlfriend has lost her faith and charms in you and is in search of a new charming and strong bf. You must pick up the bow-arrow in your hands and show your valour and mantle to your gf and satisfy her from all around - mental and physical - both. Otherwise sit on the brink to count the coming-going waves.
2007-04-09 00:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by kamal k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude
take my word
i had been in a relation and things got really nasty for me when she developed feeling for another hunk
i got all psycho and actually still sometimes hurt my self for it
i know it is tough
but i hink u should start forgetting her
i know it is easier said than done
but for u r own good health do it
i do not want u to beome like me dude
it pais a lot...
take care if u r self
2007-04-09 00:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by jijo p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she has feelings for your brither since she has meet him........you have been with him for over a year now..........and your gf is dreaming bout beeing with your brother........it sound like that she doesnt love you if she is thinking about another guy rother then her bf that she is suposse to love.......she is going to hurt you so is your bother sooner or later they both will be doing somthing be hind your back my might be already doing it you just dont know....... you are better off with out her if she is going to be cheating on you with your own brother........and if she does cheat on you and she come crawling back dont take her back she will be the one that has lost everything .......... if i can help you out more do you or your gf have msn............tell us what happend
2007-04-09 00:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your self out of this mess either accept the way things are or just get rid of her. Spartan
2007-04-09 01:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Spartan Total Warrior 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry but she obviously doesn't like you if she has told you about this and has caused you pain. I know it's gonna be hard but let her go, it will serve her right.
2007-04-09 00:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Nish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH HER THEN???
HOW DO YOU KNOW SHE HASNT HOOKED UP WITH HIM????
hello! something is not right here.... if shes felt this way for a long time maybe she shouldnt be with you.. i smell a cheater! watch out
2007-04-09 00:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh oh. Someone wants a threesome.
2007-04-09 00:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Desperate Loser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋