best to do. is it better to completly forget about her as a friend as well if you have feelings for her and have always thought about something more.
who has been in this situation.
the guy, who the girl i like is courting, is her age too 24 and she used to be married to a 40 year old and i never liked him, i wish i had said something, because i knew the relationship was wrong, maybe i've missed a chance. i feel sick.
2007-04-05 05:09:15 · 11 answers · asked by rjhamuk 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
Hon, this is not at all ***entertaining***... I think you asked this question in the wrong department
But
Follow your heart where this girl is concerned. Ask her to lunch one day *as a friend*. Then ask her what the possiblity of a future other than friendship would be. Leave that door open... as she will NOT rush thru it right now... but if trouble comes then she may turn to her long time *friend*.
She won't just jump... but you can't continue on without her knowing how you feel...
SEW= I feel sad for your heart... huggggs
2007-04-05 05:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by H.O.T. Dog 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have said that this girl has someone else in her life and is pregnant with their child.....which is pretty significant. You also mentioned that you are a friend to her, and perhaps her significant other? As difficult as it might seem, your friendship may be more valuable to her right now than any confusion that blurting out your true feelings might offer her. Its possible that she really loves the man she's with, enough to carry his child and try to build a life with him. Sometimes, we have to let someone go and simply be their friend. The fact that this is making you "sick" states to me that you have invested thoughts and feelings in the direction that somehow you have lost something special here. Perhaps you need to look at this a little differently. What roll does this girl play in your life? What is it you love about her enough to be sick over her? What kept you from declaring your feelings to her before? Sometimes we confuse feelings of lust, or desire, or a need to take care of someone, for love. If she truly is a gem, then at least you know what qualities to look for in a woman that you want to build your life with! Be her friend for now....and be the best friend you can be to her and her boyfriend. Time will tell if there's an opening for you to pursue her. And, in the meantime, keep an eye out for Ms. Right!
2007-04-05 07:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by JennyP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remove yourself from this situation. You won't ever be together as a couple, and with the way you fancy her, a friendship will not survive cos you wish to have more than that with her. Save yourself the trouble and heartache and leave her be, I know it's not what you want to hear, but that's what will end up happening, so just walk away and save yourself from further inner turmoil. Peace.
2007-04-05 05:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her life sounds far too complicated. Married to an older man, now pregnant and seeing someone else? All at 24! Steer well clear, my friend
2007-04-05 08:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decisive action leads to clear results and less chance of "feeling sick" due to uncertainty.
Become the master of your destiny, the idea isn't to control others, but to control yourself. Read situations and will yourself to act in an unwavering manner. Decisive actions bring consequences, but as long as you remain empathetic to others and true to your honor, the good will far outweigh the bad.
After living in this manner for a period of time you will find you feel less like a victim. You will feel more in "power" and others will see it.
Powerful people are always more attractive.
2007-04-05 07:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by floatingbloatedcorpse 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on. You will end up waiting ( alone ) for ever if she never leaves this new guy, and your perfect partner might pass you by un noticed because you're looking in the wrong direction.
You wont feel sick forever, just for a while.
2007-04-05 05:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by mittobridges@btinternet.com 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would suggest you make yourself a true and invaluable support to her while being v careful not to slag off her other lover [difficult obviously!!] but being there to pick up the pieces if and when it all goes wrong.
2007-04-06 06:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the friendship and do nothing more than that.
2007-04-05 05:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by cccccrazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel you never no she may like you to but may be hiding it, how to you no that she courting has she told you that
good look xxx
2007-04-05 05:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by lotti brockie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
TURN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION AND RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-06 18:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by dlupee44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋