This question is for woman who have been diagnosed with a high risk HPV. Do you tell potential Partners?

Question

I am unsure about how to tell a potentional partner or what to tell him. No doctor I go to have been willing to give me the information that I need.

I am not married so I am not cheating on a husband, I am a single woman who was infected by someone else.

I want to tell partners so I"m looking to find out how to go about it

Answer 1

"High risk" usually just means it's a high risk for you, not others. You probably have a strain of HPV that can cause cervical cancer, so it's considered high risk. And, if you do have a strain that can cause cervical cancer then it won't affect any future partner you have because men can not get cervical cancer.

I have had HPV for 6 years. I had cervical cancer from it when I was 17 years old. I have told EVERY person I have ever slept with that I have HPV and every single guy was understanding about it. None of them ran away screaming or anything. They all chose to stay with me and we later broke up (for other reasons and what not). Right now I'm with a great guy. He accepted me, HPV and all, and we are completely happy together.

MILLIONS of people have HPV, so you are certainly not alone! Research as much as you can about the virus, so when you do tell future partners you have it, you have enough knowledge about it to answer any questions they have. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

In my opinion, the best way to do it is as other users have suggested is to just sit him down before you have sex and explain it to him, explain to him what you have and since you have high-risk hpv tell him what the difference is between that and genital warts. Contrary to what others on here may say high-risk is far more dangerous to you than to him, the most dangerous part of it for him is that he can give it to any partners that he may have after you. Also in answer to some others having high-risk hpv or any other type of hpv has nothing to do with how many sexual partners you may have had or whether your are married or not as the partner can carry the virus for years, without knowing, and since there is no reliable test for hpv in males especially if he is infected with strains that don't cause warts than there is no way for him to know and he can be a silent carrier. Remember high-risk means that the particular strain of virus that you have is one that is high-risk for causing cervical changes and possibly cervical Cancer and it says nothing about how many partners you have had or what your sexual history is like. I wouldn't worry just be as upfront and honest and give as much correct information as possible when you tell him and if he cares about you than that won't matter. And remember to always use condoms to help lessen the spread of this and other potential diseases. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is make sure to always have protected sex.
Do you know who you got it from? If so, you need to contact them. The problem with HPV is that there is no test that men can have! It's not like when we get an abnormal pap smear... they have to have warts in order for the doctors to know WHAT they have. A man can have sex with a lot of women and never even know he is infected! Thats the reason this STD is spreading like it is!
Insist on having protected sex EVERY TIME. I wouldn't tell the guy you have HPV until you are in a REAL relationship. When they love you they don't run and tell everyone what you have and treat you like crap!

Answer 4

I have high risk HPV with the cervical cancers AND the warts.. I told my ex about it. He still stuck by me until recently but thats for other reasons. Honestly, just because you have high risk HPV does not mean you will get cerv cancer it just means you have to watch your cervix and yourself very carefully. I found out I had HPV because I saw a small wart on my groin and I freaked out, but I dont have abnormal cells.. If i didnt complain about the wart i would have never known. and I could have had this virus for YEARS. Just tell them. I dont understand why this is so hard for you. Tell him "i have hpv". Before you hit the sack. If he gets concerned or worried pull a seat aside and have him read what it is about. I only told my ex I had it because that was who i was with. He probably has HPV himself -you know how many HPV's there are out there? A LOT.

Answer 5

Having HPV puts you at a higher risk then him, i would make sure to get him tested. Every partner i have been with i have told, some had positive reactions and other didnt. but, in the end i was happy that i did, i would want to know if it was the other way around..... if your worried about not telling then feeling guilty is sure to follow......,just be honest and be ready to move on if you need too.

Answer 6

HPV is a group of viruses that over half of the human population carry(yeah the whole entire planet). Contrary to popular belief and fears, its EXTREMELY unlikely to have a complication arise out of having HPV for either male or female. To put it in perspective, about 4,000 die of cervical cancer a year while millions are infected in the US. Almost 3x the women commit suicide in the same time fame. Just talk to your potential partners truthfully about it. Theres no reason to hide it or become ostracized over it.

Answer 7

Yes you should...Why because you would want someone to be honest with you and inform you if they had something....

Having HPV doesn't make you nasty or anything....It's actually common in most women...I can't remember the website sorry but... most women I read have either had it and didn't know.....

I think that if you are upfront and honest then the person if they are truely interested will respect you more......

We have to keep ourselves healthy and informed

Answer 8

If there were no "partners" outside of marriage, the HPV would not have come about to begin with. It appears they still "just don't get it" and refuse to.

Answer 9

I believe so. The potential partner should be told as this could affect his life