i have HPV, a "high risk" form of it that could have caused cancer on my cervix. lucky for me, it was caught in time and i ha to have surgery (LEEP) rther than get cancer.
i tell my partners about my surgery, and that it was due to HPV, and tht it is something that won't show up on them but that they can become a carrier. i tell them teh honest truth that most women have already had it and fought it off, and are immune to many types of it. only a small percent get what i got. the point is to be honest, be fair (don't make it into a huge scene if it isn't), and give them all the facts they ask for. i've never had a partner say no yet. maybe men are just horny. lol
2007-03-28 13:27:41
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answered by Loon-A-TiK 4
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If it's one that has been treated and cured--ie crabs--then you tell them when you are ready and comfortable. And really, you don't have to tell them at all if thats your choice since it does not pose a risk to them.
If it's one that you will carry the rest of your life--ie herpes, HIV--you need to tell them before you have any sort of sexual contact. Ideally not when you're preparing to get physical and definately in a comfortable, private setting.
And give them time to process no matter what the STD was. Give them the facts then give them some space. Be as honest and open as possible. They may have questions, they may not. Just try not to do the whole set up where they know you're going to have a big important talk with them, it will only have you both on edge. Try to do is at a quiet, private time, maybe after doing something casual and calm like watching a movie.
2007-03-28 14:01:16
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answered by Rayvin 3
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That a hard one but you need to tell them I believe it the laws just in case they get an std from you they may just stop going out with you
2007-04-01 10:46:30
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answered by Linda 7
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you're doing the suitable concern in telling them, saving lives unquestionably. merely take a seat and be certain there are not any distractions and say what you ought to declare. i got here upon it became suitable training in front of a mirror some cases first. in the event that they pass away, then it extremely is them... yet be attentive to that there are quite a number of greater people accessible prepared to stay with you in spite of something you're living with. it rather is often suitable in the process the commencing up tiers of a relationship as emotions are not somewhat as related as a protracted term you may pass. additionally it rather is much less stressful on the guy who's contaminated understanding their prestige became out rather of bottling it up and preserving a potently risky secret. in my opinion I ask and be certain the guy is delicate, "can we communicate approximately something?". This assertion facilitates to coach the two considered one of you. If it rather is cutting-edge information asserting, "at the instant (provide a date in case you experience delicate/can endure in ideas) i became clinically determined with: ____ (fill interior the clean)". provide them a 2nd to enable it sink in and be certain to ask them in the event that they have any questions approximately it. in case you're no longer %a hundred particular approximately questions they might ask, write them down and ask next time you pass to a wellness care service. It each and every now and returned facilitates in case you have some information with reference to the STD/STI it extremely is reported. wish this permits!
2017-01-05 09:13:34
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answered by Anonymous
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before any physical contact, in a polite, discreet way before anything even starts to happen. preferably in the course of general conversation you hate to hear it but believe me, you can appreciate having been told ...
2007-03-28 13:03:09
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answered by collard greens with hash browns 4
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