Met a guy 2 years ago through a friend. He was 28 and I was 24. From the start we grew really close, he messed me around slightly during the process as he knew he liked me, but wasn't sure if he wanted any commitments right now and didn't want to end up hurting me, as he could probably cheat on me or something. so he called it off and said that we should just be friends for now as he wasn't in the frame of mind and didnt think he was being fair. ! So I decided to move on as it hurt to much to be friends. But now 2 years later he 31 me 26 we have got back in contact and has told me that he wants something serious. I am doing so well I have got a better job and a new house also and now he wants something serious. Do I get back with him knowing that he didn't see what he had then and also risked loosing me as I could have ending up with someone else etc. Do I take him back, knowing that he didn't hold onto me then so why should I be with him now, please give me your opinion!!
2007-03-25 23:58:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are absolutely right. Why take someone back when you made it perfectly clear to them that it was their last chance and they still didn't want to commit to you?
It sounds like he just wants to be the one in control, and to do things on his terms only. Well its takes two people to have a relationship and you can't just do what he wants all the time because then you won't have a life anymore or be able to make any decisions.
2007-03-26 23:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on a new house and better job! I think the guy was being honest with you when he was 28 and you first dated. That is a great quality. Now that he is older and sowed his oats so to speak why not give it a try? Before for you do ask yourself some questions. Like is he serious material? Does he have a good job and is he stable? What are his goals in life? If you don't know ask him. Dating doesn't have to be serious right off the bat. Date him and ask questions. Tell him how you feel. Be honest! Tell him what you told us perfect stranges. Life is too short to not be open and honest eoyj anyone let alone the one we may end up with for the rest of our lives. Good luck!
2007-03-26 07:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rosa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask your self are you more happier now that you have moved on.You have a decent job and your own house.That's a great accomplishment to do that for your self. It seems to me that this man may want to get back with you only because your doing so much better then him. He also warned you before that he could cheat on you.Once a cheater allways a cheater! Don't loose your self respect for your self and the accomplishments you have made over this man.You have come so far!
2007-03-26 07:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by michele k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved on and now have a bettter job and new house and sounds as if you are going on with your life. Keep going forward; you have already been there. It sounds like you know what you want and he doesn't. One can spend a lot of precious life dancing these dances. Pay attention to those intuitive feelings you are having; do not be led by your heart only. Make sure your head and heart are congruent in feelings and expecations.
2007-03-26 07:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is kind of the same situation I fell in to, My ex fiance broke up with me because of my past, we were serious... or I thought anyway, don't think she did. anyway's all i was was nice to this girl. all i did was care for her, but she didn't want that, she said she couldn't get over my past, then went and slept with an older man a week later. Now, i would take this girl back anytime she asked. but she has to do the asking. I am moving to texas in 6 weeks and she want's to remain friends? why? why hold on? is it because she likes me still? this guy still like's you, go back to him and it will be the best thing you've done for him. :)
2007-03-26 07:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get together with him if you still have feelings for him. Everyone needs a second chance. See if things will work out between you two otherwise you might spend your whole life thinking what if? You should give him a chance!!!
2007-03-26 07:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by CUTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i would let him go i won't trust him just tell him to get lost and send on him way if he did;t wont wanted commitments
just tell him then he have he has loosing you for good and don;t look back go on with out him OK
2007-03-26 07:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ya heart... i no he hurt you but remember that was a fair while ago get with him and see how you guys go!!! and if all goes wrong with ya you can always say that ya wanna be friends and see how he likes it i no that must be hard as u probaly dont wanna hurt him like he hurt you but life goes on you gotta learn to forgive and forget ... have fun enjoy life and peace out!!!
2007-03-26 07:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on some dates with and see how it goes. You are both a little older and smarter and things have changed. If you are still interested in him what have you got to lose.
2007-03-26 07:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by bobbi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him anouther chance maybe he has changed. You are going to have to let go of your old hurt feelings, before you guys can move forward!
2007-03-26 07:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋