I got recently married and love my husband very much.I am 22 and he is 25.I still think that i am too young to manage.So my behaviour is same as before marriage.In my in-law's house also i am getting up late with my husband and just getting involved with him only.I am unable to think about my in-laws as always thinks abt my husband.But I want to meet the expectations of others.So what should i do to change my mentality abt transformations from a girl to a married lady??I am also very lazy.Did not do any work b4 marriage.So suggest me the tips to become a good and responsible daughter-in-law.plz respond immediately.
2007-03-25 23:42:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try working towards a separate household without separating the family in a spiritual manner. Examine your income as some think they don't have enough because they expect too much too soon. "Growth" doesn't come overnight as none of us had it all when we first started out. Is there enough income to meet need working towards growth to support your own home? While working towards this try helping out...not to smash the toes of the wife in that home, but do as much as you can to take care and remain responsible(which isn't limited to marriage). People that live alone know that "lazy" is what "lazy" does... ok?
Consider the fact that it's not about making people happy it's about being a happy family which does include your marriage extended....just a piece of advice. Drop the "in-law" label, and here's why: husband and wife are married and become one extention of the families they both came from...your husbands parents are now also your parents because you/hubby are as one. It appears you have respected this fact and that alone proves maturity. At least you are mature in trying to find a positive solution for your marriage/future and being a wife is your role...so many young ladies view marriage as a means to destroy and spread hatred...especially when their husbands have allowed them to head the home 100% by taking on a child-like position in the marriage. Those marriages are usually chaotic, full of competition, and a mess.
2007-03-26 00:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have already parred 50% of your difficulty by accepting what you are and have decided to change the rest is very easy, make your mom in law your good friend leaving your ego a side sit and discuss this problem with her and ask her advice, she will be happy to help you, in the bargain if she shouts at you are gets angry on you don't mind it think if your mother would have been in her place she would do the same thing in adifferent manner firstly never compare our parents and in-laws which will create lot of mind blocks no human in this world is perfect so dont try to find fault if your in laws go somewhere wrong or tries to taunt you. till you get to know the writes and wrongs of life and are able to judge yourself just adjust to the circumstances and forgive and forgo people this will take you a long way in keeping relationship. Never discuss small issues of in-laws house problems to any outsiders or even own parents for the simple reason that they might pollute you with their thoughts and you will be confused and you will also be giving entry to new problems which could be avoided. If you follow this tips i am sure your mentality will change and your laziness will fo away.
2007-03-26 03:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by rema e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am new at this so please bare with me. I think the best way to change yourself, is to simply take a day (or a few hours) just to think about what and where in life it is you want to be. Easier said than done I know, but once you decide, think of all the things that are in between you and that place and one by one eliminate or alter them. Write them down if you want, to keep you motivated as you move toward your goal. It's an amazing feeling to be able to X obstacles off a list. Hope this helped.
2007-03-25 23:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by krazzysgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) Be yourself,you dont ned to impress anyone,but yourself.
B) your young,how about asking a friend to come over and help you clean or do a few things or how about asking your hubby.
c) let your hubby know how you feel
D)your not married to your inlaws !!
and even though your wishes are to show them your a good wife and happy camper - it cant always happen that way.
2007-03-25 23:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said you are very lazy please change your behaviour things will automatically , change now you are not Girl marriage means responsibilities
2007-03-25 23:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by deepaklbhatia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you are lazy. but atleast you are caring. develop a habit of involvement. you are the best
2007-03-26 10:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by sarjan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess wht my wife is facin the same problem i guess if ur online we can discuss abt ur problem
2007-03-26 00:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by raj r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same to u dear. Its common to all.
2007-03-26 06:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by apparaju j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋