My live-in boyfriend has been invited alone to the wedding of some friends of his. He is the only person out of the friendship group to have been invited without a partner. These friends have been very stand-offish and rude to me on the few occassions we have met (they are old mutual friends of my bf and his ex). I have no issue with them not inviting me, as it's their wedding and they have every right to invite and not invite whoever they choose. My issue is that they are purposely snubbing me (out of loyalty to my bf's ex - they split 2 years ago and I met him VERY soon after the split, like the same week), and I feel that my bf's loyalty should be with me not them. He originally said that he had no intention of going unless they included me, but this weekend said he might go afterall. i told him how I feel and he agreed that if they really wanted him there they'd have invited me too, so he isn't going. I am glad, but now worried that I am being out of line - please help!
2007-03-25 23:19:59 · 7 answers · asked by L x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Incidentally, the wedding is the day after my birthday (a friday) and we had planned to go away somewhere special for the weekend. Also my bf's ex is going and her partner has been invited!!!
2007-03-25 23:33:34 · update #1
You are being out of line, kind of. It is their-your ex's friend's-wedding after all. But, since your bf isn't going, no problem. =]
2007-03-25 23:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'r enot being out of line. Since you and your boyfriend live together, naturally you would assume there is a certain level of commitment there. If he is committed to you, then he should respect your feelings and not attend a social function where you have been excluded. It isn't that you were overlooked (i.e. not that they didn't know you and he were in a relationship). The engaged couple know you and decided NOT to invite you. If he is committed to you and respects your feelings, not only will he not attend this wedding, but he will also give some thought to the need to have friends like these in his life.
I hope this all works out in your favor!
2007-03-26 09:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have told him in no uncertain terms he is not to go, it would be there own fault for not inviting you (His partner) in the first place. I wonder i f she is going alone as well maybe they want to hook them up together again.Don't fell bad because they just made a bad mistake by treating him like that they don't sound like real friends in the first place otherwise they wouldn't disrespect him like that. Good luck and make sure you and him go out for a good night somewhere or dinner something so hes not thinking about them
2007-03-25 23:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not out of line at all! These people are trying to dictate your boyfriend's life. Your boyfriend should call them and let them know that he would like to go to the wedding & bring you as his guest. If they refuse, he should tell them, "So long!" His loyalty should be with you. Good luck!
2007-03-25 23:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by puffstermama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,i guess u have to see weather u BF's friends like u..
i don't think they do.that's why they do this type of stupid thing.
Anyway,when u're invited to a weddin,u like must go one lor.
if u don't go,it would seem like u have no respect for that person that's gonna be married.I think it's the reason that u're BF wanna go.
He wanna earn respect.
2007-03-25 23:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
short and sweet, no he should not go if you are not
included in the invitation.
that that that all girlfriend..
2007-03-25 23:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your b/f really cares about u
2007-03-25 23:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by givemesum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋