Before i begin you have to know me and my boyfriend love eachother very much and our relationship is great except in the bedroom.
i am a very passionate person and really enjoy sex, and love to be given pleasure, my problem is my boyfriend isn't he is happy with just the occasional shag. i like to have sex once or twice a week, he would go for weeks without it if he had his way.
He does not like giving oral sex, and gets bored trying to get me off other ways, i know that i can masterbate but once in a while it would be nice if he did it for me.
am i asking too much in wanting the love of my life to give me an orgasm?
2007-03-25 23:10:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is not a recent thing, its been going on for about a year, and i have tried talking about it but he gets bored and frustrated about it and we end up arguing. i cant have a covnersation about it with him.
2007-03-26 00:45:55 · update #1
i understand that a sex drive can be low, its the not wanting to do anything sexual when we are having sex even though he would let me do anything for him. i have tried loads of things and nothing seems to work.
2007-03-26 03:28:15 · update #2
maybe he has just cooled off, not everyone is as into sex as you are, why not just find yourself a rubber friend and take care of it yourself
2007-03-26 00:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
of course your not asking too much but i suppose we gotta see the bigger picture here, have you tried talking to him and asking why he doesn't like oral? maybe hes had a bad experience before meeting you? I'm only 23 and have been with my partner for 3 years we adore each other and as you said we also have a perfect relationship except last year my sex drive nearly disappeared! like your boyfriend i would of been quite happy having sex once in a blue moon! thankfully it was just a phase and I'm now back to normal my boyfriend was convinced something was wrong with him and it took me lots of deep conversations to try convince him it was me.i suggest you just try sit him down and have a chat maybe hes stressed at work or theres another reason you need tot alk about with him.
Good Luck xx
2007-03-26 00:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
relationships are about give and take and you have to look after you partners needs no matter what they maybe. Is this just a recent thing maybe he has things on his mind but you must keep talking. Maybe there are things that he might want that you don't do ask him. Is easy to satisfy yourself but if your in a relationship it should be shared, maybe he feels a failure cos he doesn't do it right so gives up in courage him on what to do to satisfy you and make it fun
2007-03-26 01:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by phillippa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try something new, like sex toys. Or tell him you'll do somehing he really likes if he'll do somehting you really like. Or dress up for him as something he'll really like. Or learn how to give him a lap dance.
Don't worry bout his low sex drive though. i went through a phase last year when i didn't want sex at all. My partner understood and tried loads of different things for me to get me in the mood. Some people just naturally have a low sex drive
2007-03-26 02:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋