i have always looked at him as my brother my mum and his dad got together wen i was 16,he was 20, now four years later we are both in long term relationships and he has 2children,last wkend we went to a family party,we went back to our parents house,our partners and my mum went upto bed.me my step brother and my step dad carried on drinking and talking, abit later my step father fell asleep on the sofa by which time we were both very drunk, we were laughing and joking one moment and the next we were kissing i dont know how it happened but we both got caught up in the moment and very nearly had sex but my step father could have woken at any time and we in the next room,he told me his feelings towards me have not been sisterly for some time,i think i have been subconsciencously thinking the same thing,the next morning i felt guilty and disgusted with myself he gave me a cuddle and told me not to worry and that he loved me, i cant stop thinkin about beng wiv him but it still feels wrong
2007-03-25 22:49:28 · 8 answers · asked by confusedxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
last nite i went round my step brothers house with my mum and step dad i couldnt think of an excuse not to!!! i am not imaginging any of this i want to be with him wen i left he gave me a hug kiseed me on my cheek, and told me he loved me is he meaning this in a brotherly way now or is he feeling wat i am we couldnt talk about it to many ppl where there, this is breaking me apart i feel a lot of guilt, and its making me ill..... please tell me wat to do i am so confused
2007-03-28 23:28:51 · update #1
It's not wrong from a legal stand point, and really you were both old enough when you parents got together that it was never going to be a real sibling relationship, you didn't grow up together.
This is still not a good idea, he is married, if he doesn't want to be then he should end it, but don't put yourself in aplace where you are the other woman. The other thing to consider is you guys get together, what if it doesn't work out, can you imagine the awkwardness?
I say let the drunk night be a drunk night and let it go, tell him it's not a good idea for all the reasons that it's not. What you will choose to do in the end is up to you though.
2007-03-25 23:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you guys didn't grow up together, that makes the situation a bit different from a stepbro/stepsis standpoint. Now, the fact that he's married and you all carried on the way you did is a big no-no. I wouldn't feel disgusted, but things will definitely be awkward between you guys and at family functions which will suck! Good luck and hopefully you'll be able to get over this and find someone dedicated to "you".
;o)
2007-03-25 23:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by EveryDaysAMardiGras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy...it extremely is an excellent demanding situation. the hardest I truthfully have heard of! What i'd do is keep it on the down low. i does no longer tell your father and mother for a minimum of many years. i comprehend it sounds undesirable, yet have self assurance me, issues will be extremely undesirable if all hell breaks free. this may extremely spoil your relations if it does no longer pass nicely. in the journey that they comprehend you both get alongside extremely nicely, they are unlikely to imagine some thing of you spending time with one yet another and they probable does no longer imagine you're "jointly" even with in case you lived jointly. i'd wait it out for a minimum of five years. i visit practically communicate from journey as my relations disowned me when I presented them to my better 1/2. If I had to do it back, i'd've by no potential advised them. i have self assurance being in love with him is okay. only imagine, in case you've been jointly already and your father and mother only by twist of destiny attached, that's compared to you're blood relation in any respect.
2016-10-17 21:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by hafner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is "sick" necessarily, because you didn't grow up together, you were nearly an adult, and he was an adult when they got married...
but what is wrong is that you are both in other relationships and he has children, and what kind of excuse would that be... "ok, kids mommy and daddy are separating because now i want to go and be with your auntie"... that would be sick for his kids to have to deal with. so you both need to be grown up about it and just stop!!!
2007-03-25 22:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
APPROACH Him when both of you are sober. Start kissing... Have SEX with him. GO FOR IT! You don't get many chances to **** a family member. Good Luck!!
2007-03-26 10:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Supercooldude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to have relations with anyone. No matter who it is.
But I will tell you that I have an uncle that did marry his stepsister. They were married for 65 years, and she past away about 10 years ago, my uncle is 95 years old now.
2007-03-25 23:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont think it is sick you know your , you didnt ask your mum to marry guy with a hot son so i would go for it good luck
2007-03-25 23:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is sick, but it is kind of weird to be in love with his or her brother or sister. you don't need to be worried. it's ok sweetie.
take care
LOL
2007-03-25 23:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Daisy l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋