on friday 23 march my ex wife was out with her boyfriend in telford,he is a punk rocker and is always getting in trouble, they were beaten up at the train station and the incedent was recorded on cctv. i have two children and am worried that this will happen again when the kids are with them. is there anything i can do. worried parent.
2007-03-25 22:44:09 · 15 answers · asked by JOHN D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It all depends on the custody order. You can go to court and get the order amended so that your wife may only visit the children under supervision. Until such time there is little you can do except tell your children if it happens when they are with their mother to move as far away as possible and if they have cell phones to call the police. Good luck.
2007-03-25 22:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine you are very worried indeed. I would be in your shoes.
I think you need to talk to your children, without scaring them, so that they will know what to do if such a situation arises ie get away from the situation, call the police, call you, go to the nearest person and ask for help etc.
And it wouldn't do any harm to talk to the CAB and find out if there are any organisations that might be able to advise you on how to protect your children by law.
Maybe, even talking to the local police officer for the community might give you some ideas how you can safeguard your children.
I really wish you all the best and hope that when your children are with them, ex-wife and bf have the sense to behave themselves.
2007-03-25 22:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your ex and tell her you are concerned for the children. If he is constantly in trouble then perhaps you need to make an appointment with a solicitor and get custody of the children - it might make your ex wake up to the fact that she is putting your children at risk
2007-03-25 22:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a parent to mate, and i understand your concerns, it would worry me too!..not about the ex and her new (sad) sounding fella but the kids would be a worry!...cant you give him some sort of warning about the way he acts while he's in their company, something along the lines of how hard it will be to eat threw a straw etc! it all depends how old your kids are too!...I mean if he's that much of an idiot they might not want to be seen out with him anyway!...but if all else fails hire someone to give him a persuasive warning!...if you catch my drift???...good luck mate!
2007-03-25 22:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Fred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your 1/2 an hour free legal advice from a solicitor who specialises in children / family disputes... Ask for a letter to be sent warning that you are aware of this incident, that you strongly disapprove of her partner's irresponsibility & that she has now been formally warned - you will seek custody should any similar incident occur that is detrimental to your children i.e. putting them in jeopardy / at risk of actual harm (physical & moral).
Good luck!
2007-03-25 23:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i were you make note of all that happens! You need to speak to your ex wife and tell her how you feel............Dont wait around for the next incident,it could affect the children.
Also if stuff like this is going on in front of the kids it could already be affecting them or it will later in life!
Tell her!!
2007-03-25 23:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds terrible. I can understand your concern. I would contact social services as the other person said and maybe go back to court to stop her access to the children if she continues this daft irresponsible behaviour.
2007-03-25 22:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your ex wife explain you are concerned for the kids if this does not help go to your local citizens advice an they will be able to explain your options its free an confidential and you might feel better just talking to some one goodluck an remember love can be blind but it does wear off she might see sense
2007-03-25 23:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by lorna h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk with your ex wife first if she understand then its ok if not talk to your kids about that with best way not criticise your ex wife in front of kids but by wrong things she has doing
2007-03-25 22:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by inderpreet k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if it was me a would go for full custody she putting her children at risk she seems to want her no good boyfriend more then her family,her children should always come first .
2007-03-25 22:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋