Met a guy 2 years ago through a friend. He was 28 and I was 24. From the start we grew really close, he messed me around slightly during the process as he knew he liked me, but wasn't sure if he wanted any commitments right now and didn't want to end up hurting me, as he could probably cheat on me or something. so he called it off and said that we should just be friends for now as he wasn't in the frame of mind and didnt think he was being fair. ! So I decided to move on as it hurt to much to be friends. But now 2 years later he 31 me 26 we have got back in contact and has told me that he wants something serious. I am doing so well I have got a better job and a new house also and now he wants something serious. Do I get back with him knowing that he didn't see what he had then and also risked loosing me as I could have ending up with someone else etc. Do I take him back, knowing that he didn't hold onto me then so why should I be with him now, please give me your opinion!!
2007-03-25 22:28:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are absolutely right. Why take someone back when you made it perfectly clear to them that it was their last chance and they still didn't want to commit to you?
It sounds like he just wants to be the one in control, and to do things on his terms only. Well its takes two people to have a relationship and you can't just do what he wants all the time because then you won't have a life anymore or be able to make any decisions.
2007-03-27 03:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something you need to think long and hard about. From what you've said he really hurt you first time around and that was before it got too serious between the two of you. You're proabably a lot stronger now but I would be inclined to say no. At least see if he makes some effort to win you back rather than just telling you he now wants you. Ultimately only you can make that decision but just think to how it was two years ago.
Hope everything works out well for you.
2007-03-25 22:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Estrella Brillante 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we travel through life our feelings for one another change. You can see this in how many people get divorced these days.
You want to give it another try, or you wouldn't be asking the question.
Do it, what do you have to lose. If he breaks your heart a 2nd time, you'll recover a lot faster.
If you don't you may regret missing the opportunity for life.
It's 2 years later, he has realized how important you are to him, he may have been scared of the commitment.
(Keep the house in your name, always)
2007-03-25 22:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs Love Canada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? If you do, give him a chance. Don't make any commitments right away though. Wait to see if he really loves you, and is ready to settle. If you have already moved on and have someone else, don't throw away what you have now for something that is not a sure thing. He had his chance once before.
2007-03-25 22:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about this but maybe u 2 should sit down and have a talk about if he is serious and say that u do not want 2 be hurt again.
tell him if he is not serious then he should move on but he could be serious he probably have sometime to think about you and him.
some people change with sometime by them self.
2007-03-25 22:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats let for u to decide but to me like he said he wasnt ready for commitment then u didnt want someone that will cheat on u so he just left then and now he readyi think u should give it a try
2007-03-25 22:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's not worth it!
If ur happy now why ruin it with something like that. i'm not being horrible, but think hard before u do anything!
2007-03-25 22:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question, why does he want you now, and not then, and he realized two years later, come on........NO
2007-03-25 22:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...nut if you like him so much or you want to GET HIM BACK(i mean trick/HURT him back)GO FOR IT!
2007-03-25 22:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by ryuhki05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
2007-03-25 22:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by tommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋