My boyfriend has been really stressed down and not feeling well about his job situation. He has been trying really hard to get a new job, attending all different kinds of interviews while working full-time. He has pulled away from me during this time but he did explain to me that he needs to do that. I was not understanding of his stress and I became needy and I started to question him and doubt his love for me. This only made things worse between us. He tried to explain himself again but I still questioned him and I asked him if he is avoiding me. He got upset and yesterday he told me that he is not happy with me anymore and he is thinking about leaving. I asked him if it's his last decision and he said he needs time to think but he thinks he will leave. I sat down and wrote him a letter, where I said I was sorry for being so needy and mistrusting and I tried to appreciate all the good things he does for me. I am so sad and scared of loosing him. Do you think it's the end?
2007-03-25 22:24:31 · 19 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Will you do me a favour allow your email on here noone sees your email address and send me a message, I want to get back to you on this and help because I know what you are going through I just don't want to put my experience on here, you will not lose him it's not the end, I was like you so I know your fears
2007-03-25 22:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by friendofb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a truly loving relationship, parners would look to each other for help and support, he would want you at the end of the day to take his mind of work things, and to make him feel good about himself.
He is not doing this, and you can look at this in two ways. 1. He just doesn't take your relationship seriously or 2. it gives him added stress rather than relieves it.
So either if it is or isn't on the rocks, your relationship isn't working, and I can't see him being impressed if you started to try and fix it, I think his mind is made up.
2007-03-26 06:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...if you love someone you should be willing to let them go. You have already lost him so do him a favor and relieve the stress of trying to keep you happy while he's trying to make a living and get a better job. Back off. He might be back if you will just give him some breathing space. Or let him go completely. You'll be doing him and yourself a favor. Godloveya.
2007-03-26 05:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loves you he wil understand your feelings for feeling needy.but maybe you just need to give him space and waist he is having some space from you spend some good times with your mates instead to keep your mind off of him as much as you can. once he feels ready he will come back to you unless he really cant take the stress of not having a job. but please try to support him through his trying and never give up on him or think that he will leave just belive in him. im sure if he loves you as much as you love him he will stay with you.
good luck friend i hope this helps ya out.
2007-03-26 06:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously very stressed at this point! My suggestion would be .. give him some space. Just because he seems preoccupied, doesn't mean he doesnt want to be with you. His job and his income are important to him. Without them he cannot be the person he is. Take a step back and just be there for him when he needs you.
2007-03-26 05:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on , i m a guy, i know what is guys thinking . If he is really stressed down, try to encourage him but not to question him. Sometimes guys juz want to perform the best to their women, but u keep on bugging him, the result will turn out negatively, hope you and yr bf will be ok , Good luck
Give him some air
2007-03-26 05:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give the guy some time on he's own for a bit. He may not have meant want he said about leaving you, but he may think that your suffocating him, therefore him needing the time.
I know it's hard, but let him have he's time and let him come to you. It's the only thing that you can do.
2007-03-26 05:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by chloe 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is going to leave. What you need to do is be strong. Not only is it a hard blow to your heart, but to your ego as well. You have to know that you are not the reason he left. He has other things in his life that he has to deal with.
If he really loves you, he'll see that he can't be without you in his life somehow. Give him a chance to realize that.
2007-03-26 05:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by smartazboy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has no problems prioritising his needs and how to remedy any problems, he is trying to forge a new career, but its at your relationships expense. i think you are clinging onto how things used to be, he is extracting himself from you and the life you had, you are "justifying" his behaviour because you do not want to let him go. i think in his eyes he already has, he just doesn't have the courage to tell you. he is letting you hang on and hang on, just waiting until you cannot take it anymore. Let him go, make a fresh start, with someone who respects you more than this guy does
2007-03-26 05:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I symapthise with you, but i dont think that you have to beg him to stay with you. Usually when people change its because there is a third paty involved, Im not saying this is the case, it might be. We all tend to be disappointed in our lives by the people we love, but we need to move on and give thema chance to realise they made a mistake..who knows..this may even be a blessing in disguise..!Keep your head high, dont beg a man to stay with you and dont feel guilty because you expressed your feelings..!
2007-03-26 05:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mercia L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋