My boyfriend of 3 years is still calling and texting his ex. She tried to comit suicide when they were together and he said he just checks up on her to see if she is ok. Should I be worried about this? I feel hurt by him worrying about her as i think she is playing him and trying to get him back. I know he loves me and wouldn't cheat on me. But should i be feeling treathened by her?
2007-03-25 22:10:50 · 15 answers · asked by Lexy :-) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yup you should worry, you've been together three years and you still allow him to talk to his ex...seriously make him stop it's not healthy. she tried commiting suicide...his checking up on her isnt going to help her she needs professional help...is he a licensed therapist? i doubt it...tell him to stop talking to her, he has someone way more important to care about YOU!
2007-03-25 22:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt be worried about her, be careful what you say to him though because this guy obviously loved this girl in the past and is only worried about her, think about it, suicidal maniac or sane you. I also hang out with an ex, my intention are definetely not romantic. Maybe ask him, if she is okay, and going to be fine, I wouldnt get angry, since this girl is that depressing and suicidal.
2007-03-26 05:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he does make a valid point about checking on her. Especially if her attempted suicide was induced by their relationship. He may feel some responsibility for her continued safety.
If that's all that's going on, you have nothing to worry about.
2007-03-26 05:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should feel threatened. Why is it his job to save her crazy butt? Tell him to tell her to call the suicide hotline or to contact her family and let them know whats going on. You'd think that would be the more logical plan, being that he no longer is her boyfriend. I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate it if you were playing the hero trying to save your ex-boyfriend, who in turn was attempting to win you back. If he truly loves you, kindly tell him to put himself in your shoes.
2007-03-26 05:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Haywood Jablomee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would, you have been with this guy for three years and he is still concerned about his ex. something is wrong with that picture. you said she tried to commit suicide wasn't that over three years ago? he should get a grip, he has been with you so why should he worry about her now he left her didn't he? you would think he would of been more concerned at the time of her attempt then three years later. i would question her involvement in all of it
2007-03-26 05:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by sonterre05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same for a while when we first got together. If he finished with her he is probably feeling guilty.
You SHOULD think this is a good thing as it means he is caring. BUT its understandable if you dont think that, he is yours why should you share him?
Does she have a boyfriend? If so mention to your bloke that it is up to her new boyfriend to look out for her now, and that her boyfriend may feel put out theat he keeps checking on her.
Dont feel threatened. What I do now is suggest my boyfriend contacts his ex to check on her, he doesnt! I have also asked him to invite her to come out with us, he didnt! It makes you look better if you are understanding!
Its better than him doing it behind your back!
Hope this helps, please dont worry!
2007-03-26 05:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this behind your back, then dump him. If he is doing this because he is really concern, then help him help her, but dont let her control him. At some point, he needs to let her go and fly on her own. over 3 years is a long time. I dont know if you should feel threaten, but if you do, you need to have a heart to heart talk with him.
2007-03-26 05:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dr-Brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really ask your boyfriend whats the real score between him and his ex because its either your boyfriend still wants his ex or he is just really playing a good ex to her, but the real solution is a heart to heart talk between you and your boyfriend and an honest question for an honest answer..... goodluck
2007-03-26 05:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a one-on-one chat with your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. Let him know that it's good to be concerned about others but by putting you in fear of loosing him is too taxing on you. See if he can come up with a win-win solution.
2007-03-26 05:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dnt worry about it.. it should be alrite.. hes jus checking up on her like u sed.. if he luvs u he wouldnt do that to u.. its ok.. maybe she is trying to play him but if ur his gf and he luvs u then u have nothin to worry about darl..
2007-03-26 05:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋